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skue81 · Mar 7, 2013, 02:17 AM

Hi All,

This is my first question in this community. I am a 33 year old male and I am in relationship for the past 4 years. When I told my parents about my love they did not accept and they are being stubborn for the past 1 year and not even trying to understand. I made all efforts during this one year time emotional talks, harsh talks and all kind of efforts but no fruitful thing happened. The girl's parents also did love marriage and my parents state that as a reason for non acceptance and also says the girl's father is from a lower caste and they are no way interested in it. When I asked for a final decision to my parents saying that I won't marry anyone else they said be like this itself for the rest of the life as it is your decision and we are not bothered about it. They are being too stubborn about it. I have two sisters (married) and they are also asking me to sacrifice my life for their well being. I am looking for a solution by convincing them but I don't believe it is happening. I look forward for some suggestions. I am working in an MNC and earning a good salary.

tickle · Mar 7, 2013, 03:58 AM

If you love the lady and want to marry her, then do it and be happy for the rest of your life. It is your life, not your parents, or anyone else.

letmethink · Mar 7, 2013, 01:05 PM

I am not sure what happened I just typed all this.and thought I posted it here.. somehow it got deleted.. am new to this forum too.
I agree with tickle.. am also in the same situation.. I am in love with a boy.. but my parents are not cooperative.. every-time I tried to convince them we end up having huge fights.. so I ended the talks.. if they dot agree I will just ran away with him.. its not them who should decide with whom we should live.. if we agree to them now we would be the one mentally ill till the very end

Oliver2011 · Mar 7, 2013, 02:26 PM

You have a couple of choices. Marry the girl you love and hopefully your parents will come around. Or do as your parents wish and lose out on love.

Actually you have one choice at 33 years old. Being in love is awesome. You are a man so as a man make your own decisions. We all want our parents' approval but sometimes you just have to go it on your own.

fredg · Mar 7, 2013, 02:30 PM

Ultimately, it's your decision to marry her, or try finding someone else. I remember an old saying, "When you marry, you also marry the parents".
There is a lot of truth in that. Your parents may never be happy with your choice, and never want you or her to come around to their home. Something to think about.

talaniman · Mar 7, 2013, 05:16 PM

Make your own choice and follow your own path as its your life and YOu are responsible for it.

letmethink · Mar 8, 2013, 01:04 AM

Originally Posted by fredg

Ultimately, it's your decision to marry her, or try finding someone else. I remember an old saying, "When you marry, you also marry the parents".
There is a lot of truth in that. Your parents may never be happy with your choice, and never want you or her to come around to their home. Something to think about.

Why can't they be happy when they see him living with a girl happily. Usually when a person tell his/her parents that they are in love or tell them their interest to marry ,parents usually starts bluffing how they raised us took care of and all.I don't think they really care for us.they are just being selfish I think.they are only just taking their happiness into account.all they care is a find a girl or boy from their caste,with good money and educational qualification.

skue81 · Mar 8, 2013, 02:33 AM

True that is what is happening with my case as well. They say we raised you like this and because of us only you are at this position. I completely agree that they have raised me but still it is my life which I am going to live for the rest of my life. If am not going to be happy with it what is the point in getting in to it.

letmethink · Mar 8, 2013, 05:33 AM

It think you should marry the one you love. How can parents be so sure we will have a good life with a person of their choice.
In my case I always makes the decision in certain things and even if things went wrong I won't be that upset .But when I go with others interest and if it turns not cool,I would blame everyone and me for the rest of my life.
The only problem going to happen is,if any difficulties happens in future ,we will have to face it alone.
Are you an Asian?

tickle · Mar 8, 2013, 06:34 AM

Hi, letmethink, glad you stuck around to help out. It is great to see you posting with us :)

Tick

letmethink · Mar 8, 2013, 08:22 AM

Originally Posted by tickle

hi, letmethink, glad you stuck around to help out. It is great to see you posting with us

tick

:)

honestwriter · Mar 8, 2013, 10:45 AM

Hate it when castes get involved... just so wrong !
And YOU ! YOU are a 33 year old man ! 33 ! YOU isn't bottlefeeding, man! Get a hold of yourself ! It's your life... not your parents'... your parents isn't going to be there to watch your kids get married ! ITS ENTIRELY your LIFE ! That doesn't mean you disrespect them and hate them... some people are so self absorbed about their status in society that they never think from the child's point of view.

HEY WAIT ! YOU isn't a CHILD! YOU love this woman? Gather your scattered balls and marry her with/with out your parents consent. If you were a teenager.. this question would have been valid... but not from a 33 yr old man! Give us the Good News Soon!

skue81 · Mar 11, 2013, 12:34 AM

Yes am an asian