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Babygrl41388 · Mar 6, 2013, 07:45 AM

My husband and I have been together since I was 15, for ten years now, we only broke up once during high school for a year, he was my first and everything but when we broke up I was devastated but I did to out and do things I shouldn't have with some of our mutual friends in that year, but never have I ever thought about doing anything like that since we got back together.

We have been married for six years and this year our neighbor who happens to be one of the friends I messed around with when we were broke up has been coming around when my husband is here and my husband seems to be thinking now that I am cheating on him this guy because he lives next door and comes around. I have tried to tell the hubby that I don't look at this guy like that but he just says he sees signs and I have no idea what he is talking about.

We have been fighting over this for three months now and I just don't know what to do, I hate being accused of this, I've told him to talk to this friend of ours and he would see but he doesn't want to look bad but I've tried everything and nothing works to let him know I only want him and no one else.

I need help I'm lost, I just wish he would trust me and I don't know what I did for him to think this of me!

smoothy · Mar 6, 2013, 08:14 AM

YOU fooled around with this neighbor, he knew it.. and yet this neighbor is still in the picture.

I can see how he would be upset... if he slept with the hot woman next door (assuming there actually is one) and you knew it and she keeps coming around all the time... would you be upset? I bet you would.

THis is more about what it looks like than what actually might or might not be happening.

Fr_Chuck · Mar 6, 2013, 08:47 AM

You tell the neighbor to stop coming around, you need to make it clear that his coming around is causing trouble

talaniman · Mar 6, 2013, 09:49 AM

You should have told the guy not to come around a long time ago and then there would be no need to fight over it.

fredg · Mar 6, 2013, 12:58 PM

As another said, tell the neighbor in no uncertain terms, Don't come back to my house!
Then, it would help if both you and your husband talk with a marriage counselor, or some other counselor. Your husband needs to be convinced that your "running around" has stopped.
If you can't accomplish this, the marriage may be over. A good marriage needs respect, honesty, caring, and a willingness to talk about anything. But first. STOP the neighbor from coming around.