[Luckychucky]

Ive been with my girlfriend of 1 year, and have always got on amazing, however I've never really felt those deep feelings of love and although I care for her so deeply I've always wondered whether I was actually in love with her or not. She's smart, funny, caring and drop dead gorgeous so I've always been confused as to why I wondered! I while ago I heard from a girl I used to date and always had chemistry with, we have been texting for weeks and I guess I've always wondered about the what could have been. It ended between us as she wasn't ready for a relationship at the time as she had just split with her partner. About 6 months after that I got with ny girlfriend and have been happy, but always been wondering, is this as good as it gets? Now we are on a break and she's been hurting so bad, I feel terrible. I just want space to find out if I miss her and see if I do actually love her deeply enough to carry on. Im so confused and feel so bad for suggesting a break out of nowhere. I don't know if I should pursue the other girl to try find my true feelings and get some answers as to what I want?! I hate the thought of ny girlfriend being with anybody else, but I also know she deserves to be with somebody who loves her deeply and appreciates her for how amazing she is and doenst doubt it for a second. Im really struggling to find if I do or not and don't know what to do, please help me! I don't want to mess anybody about! Thanks!

[fredg]

I am 71 yrs old, divorced after the first 7 yrs of marriage, then re-married for 30 yrs. I am now a widower. If you are not sure, then please go and be with the other girl, or just with anybody else. There is Nothing wrong with taking a break. My ex-wife took a break after 7 yrs, for someone else.
We can never be sure of anyone, but at least, give yourself a chance at finding out about the other girl. I do wish you the best, and good luck.

[Luckychucky]

Thank you so much for your answer, I can understand what you are saying. I think my biggest worry is making the biggest mistake ever, but that's a selfish way of looking at things. I just want to find out my true feelings for my girfriend as I don't want to mess her about anymore and just want her to be happy. Im just so torn. I wish I had your wisdom! Thanks again.

[Wondergirl]

Over 45 years ago, I was talked into giving up chemistry for convenience. I still wonder what would have happened if I had had a brain in my head back then and the guts to do what I really wanted to do.

Don't end up living with regret.

[Homegirl 50]

If you are unsure, she is not the one for you. Let her stay gone and see how thing go with the other girl. This is what dating is all about.