Ive been with my girlfriend of 1 year, and have always got on amazing, however I've never really felt those deep feelings of love and although I care for her so deeply I've always wondered whether I was actually in love with her or not. She's smart, funny, caring and drop dead gorgeous so I've always been confused as to why I wondered! I while ago I heard from a girl I used to date and always had chemistry with, we have been texting for weeks and I guess I've always wondered about the what could have been. It ended between us as she wasn't ready for a relationship at the time as she had just split with her partner. About 6 months after that I got with ny girlfriend and have been happy, but always been wondering, is this as good as it gets? Now we are on a break and she's been hurting so bad, I feel terrible. I just want space to find out if I miss her and see if I do actually love her deeply enough to carry on. Im so confused and feel so bad for suggesting a break out of nowhere. I don't know if I should pursue the other girl to try find my true feelings and get some answers as to what I want?! I hate the thought of ny girlfriend being with anybody else, but I also know she deserves to be with somebody who loves her deeply and appreciates her for how amazing she is and doenst doubt it for a second. Im really struggling to find if I do or not and don't know what to do, please help me! I don't want to mess anybody about! Thanks!

I am 71 yrs old, divorced after the first 7 yrs of marriage, then re-married for 30 yrs. I am now a widower. If you are not sure, then please go and be with the other girl, or just with anybody else. There is Nothing wrong with taking a break. My ex-wife took a break after 7 yrs, for someone else.
We can never be sure of anyone, but at least, give yourself a chance at finding out about the other girl. I do wish you the best, and good luck.

Thank you so much for your answer, I can understand what you are saying. I think my biggest worry is making the biggest mistake ever, but that's a selfish way of looking at things. I just want to find out my true feelings for my girfriend as I don't want to mess her about anymore and just want her to be happy. Im just so torn. I wish I had your wisdom! Thanks again.

Over 45 years ago, I was talked into giving up chemistry for convenience. I still wonder what would have happened if I had had a brain in my head back then and the guts to do what I really wanted to do.

Don't end up living with regret.

If you are unsure, she is not the one for you. Let her stay gone and see how thing go with the other girl. This is what dating is all about.