[ishy23]

I have been in relation with my boyfriend for 7 months. I used to live in uk and him back home, we met on a socialising site and like each other, few months after we became very close to the point we will get married and I decide to came back home.. he is very short tempered and work is his priority.

After his separation to his 1st wife that was the only thing to keep him busy, his work.. he promised to work less when I'm back but aparently its not happening.. due to the pressure of his work and some bad memories, he is very short tempered. I guess that relate to his 1st wedding if some words was misused that time and my bad luck I said some words similar, unknowingly, even as a joke he will shout at me and that turn into argument which result him not talking to me few days.
I have explained to him that I haven't left all my uk life to cope with his mood.. I love him loads and want a peacefull life with him, his attention verbally and caring physically.. as we hardly see each other not just he think he loves me loads. Right now we are not talking as I said something as a joke and it went all wrong.. I told him stop link me my words with his past life words are words anyone can use it, if you will keep thinking back time I was told that words in a differ way and fight with me I can do anything.. just tell me I don't like this joke and that's it but... I send him a message to say.. think over it contact me if he can change all this behaviour so we can live peacefully otherwise my bad luck cose I really do love him but enough is enough..
Please hepl me what to do in this situation I need your help I'm feel tired and I don't want to regret that I left my uk life for a wrong person

[thenextpage]

Unfortunately, as with all relationship issues in my opinion, you can not change or alter the way the other person handles themselves. It sounds to me that to save your relationship, your only hope may be if he agrees to enter relationship counseling with you, so that you both can learn to communicate with each other more effectively. If he is not willing to do this, I'm afraid that you have most likely done all that you can do. In a successful relationship, it takes hard work and willingness from both people to make it work. One person can not hold the relationship together.

I imagine this must be a very difficult for you, and I empathize. But please remember that your partner should want you to be happy, and support your needs and desires (as long as they are legal). If that's not the case, then you may have to move on to be happy.