[SummerParty]

A year ago I had a girlfriend but we broke up (for a stupid reason... ). After that year we started talking to each other again. She mostly asks if I can come over to her house (just as a friend nothing more). But after that I've been there so many times I began starting to have feelings for her again. She's a cool girl we laugh a lot and she's beautiful and really cute.

The only problem is that she is most of the time depressed because the people in her school and so called "best friends" bully her and call her names like whore, slut, etc. Because of that she's "distant" (in the beginning) when I come over. I always cheer her up but (NOW COMES THE PROBLEM) because of her depression she pushes people away, doesn't sleep much, started smoking and sometimes takes drugs (soft ones). I want to help her but she doesn't listen so I cheer her up and make her laugh. She says she loves me and I'm the best that ever happened to her.

She's totally the opposite of me and she can be sometimes so annoying that I (I don't hurt her) but behind all that I really like her. She like wants to get back together but she's afraid that we're going to fight and argue again and we'll eventually break up... again. So I really don't know what to do. Should I give this relation one more shot or should be just stay friends :S. I'm out of ideas

Sorry again that it's so long but it would be very helpful if someone could help.

[Homegirl 50]

It does not sound like she is in an emotionally healthy stay for a relationship. You need to not go there again.Stop spending so much time there.

[Oliver2011]

I totally agree with Homegirl. The drama will continue and probably escalate. Why would you want that for your future? You know you deserve better. Move on...

[talaniman]

Spending so much time together after a breakup keeps old feelings stirred up, and you seem to be her only friend. Have you resolved that stupid reason that broke you up? How?

If she is scared to risk it again, perhaps you should be too.

[SummerParty]

The stupid reason why we broke up is because I was a little jealous
Because she was texting (a lot) with a friend of hers and that made me feel kind of angry and it's also because of her depress she pushed people away I tried to help her but she didn't care.

We resolved it by talking again and I said "I will always be there no matter what the problem is. I will try to help you"
We both find it stupid that we broke up because actually we broke up for no reason at all :S

[Homegirl 50]

It does not sound too appealing to me. Why can you not just be friends?

[joypulv]

How quickly we forgot! You even SAY HERE that she can be annoying. Getting back together will just bring all that back in a big whoosh, and you will be sitting there wondering why in the world you went back. You need to cut back on your time with her, and start finding someone more healthy emotionally. She won't get help. She would rather be depressed and feed off your friendship, which is dragging you down.

[talaniman]

Is she going to cut way back on texting and taking her depression out on you, and will you stop being angry and annoyed at her?

Good luck.