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    Feb 1, 2013, 12:45 PM
    What if I can't get wet
    See I have never had sex before, however as of late I really wanted to because I found someone who I really care about and I would do anything for them. However, at first she was really worried about doing it with me because I had never had sex but now she's different on that and wants to have sex. But when we get to making out and trying to get going I can't seem to get wet. Does this mean that I am just not physically attracted her (even though I am legit in love with everything about her) or is it maybe that I am too nervous/not ready? Also to add onto it, this is a girl on girl relationship which is also my first.
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    Feb 1, 2013, 12:47 PM
    Ages?
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    Feb 1, 2013, 12:49 PM
    [QUOTE=odinn7;3385461]Ages?[/QUOTE

    20.
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    Feb 1, 2013, 12:52 PM
    Ok... perhaps you are simply nervous. This being your first and all is sure to cause some type of apprehension. Just relax and go with it and see what happens.
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    Feb 1, 2013, 12:55 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by odinn7 View Post
    Ok...perhaps you are simply nervous. This being your first and all is sure to cause some type of apprehension. Just relax and go with it and see what happens.
    But I really feel like I have tried to go with it and relaz, we have tried a lot more as of late but it never seems to go anywhere because I feel like she can sense something isn't right, then again I am notorious for stressing and not really realizing it, if that makes sense. But thank you!
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    Feb 1, 2013, 12:58 PM
    The more you sit there and think about it and worry... the worse it is going to be.
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    Feb 1, 2013, 01:00 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by odinn7 View Post
    The more you sit there and think about it and worry...the worse it is going to be.
    Okay thanks! & yeah I tend to over think everything. Thanks, I appreciate your help a lot.
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    Feb 1, 2013, 01:02 PM
    One word - lubricant.
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    Feb 1, 2013, 01:10 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    One word - lubricant.
    I've heard that a lot of people don't find it enjoyable when using lubricant.
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    Feb 1, 2013, 01:14 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by nadia678 View Post
    it never seems to go anywhere because I feel like she can sense something isn't right
    That's because you are thinking about you, not about her.
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    Feb 1, 2013, 01:17 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    That's because you are thinking about you, not about her.
    I tried to give you a +1 but it won't let me.

    That, right there, is probably the answer.

    Well done, Librarian, well done...
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    Feb 1, 2013, 01:17 PM
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    I've heard that a lot of people don't find it enjoyable when using lubricant.
    Use K-Y. And I have no clue who those "a lot of people" are. And you don't either.
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    Feb 1, 2013, 01:19 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    That's because you are thinking about you, not about her.
    So you're saying that I need worry less about messing up and stop being nervous and just think about her?
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    Feb 1, 2013, 01:20 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by odinn7 View Post
    I tried to give you a +1 but it won't let me.

    That, right there, is probably the answer.

    Well done, Librarian, well done.....
    Thank you, kind sir! And people think we go bed early to read...
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    Feb 1, 2013, 01:21 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by nadia678 View Post
    So you're saying that I need worry less about messing up and stop being nervous and just think about her?
    Yes.
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    Feb 1, 2013, 01:22 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    Yes.
    Seriously, thank you! I never thought about it that way but I can really see that working! I really appreciate that.
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    Feb 1, 2013, 01:28 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by nadia678 View Post
    Seriously, thank you! I never thought about it that way but I can really see that working! I really appreciate that.
    Use all five of your senses to experience her -- touch, taste, hearing, seeing, smelling. Make her the center of your world!
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    Feb 1, 2013, 01:34 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    Use all five of your senses to experience her -- touch, taste, hearing, seeing, smelling. Make her the center of your world!
    Okay! You are really helpful. Thank you, we will see how it goes.
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    Feb 1, 2013, 01:36 PM
    I'm curious who the "lot of people" who would prefer "dry sex" over using a lubricant are -
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