See I have never had sex before, however as of late I really wanted to because I found someone who I really care about and I would do anything for them. However, at first she was really worried about doing it with me because I had never had sex but now she's different on that and wants to have sex. But when we get to making out and trying to get going I can't seem to get wet. Does this mean that I am just not physically attracted her (even though I am legit in love with everything about her) or is it maybe that I am too nervous/not ready? Also to add onto it, this is a girl on girl relationship which is also my first.

Ages?

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Ok... perhaps you are simply nervous. This being your first and all is sure to cause some type of apprehension. Just relax and go with it and see what happens.

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Ok...perhaps you are simply nervous. This being your first and all is sure to cause some type of apprehension. Just relax and go with it and see what happens.

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But I really feel like I have tried to go with it and relaz, we have tried a lot more as of late but it never seems to go anywhere because I feel like she can sense something isn't right, then again I am notorious for stressing and not really realizing it, if that makes sense. But thank you!

The more you sit there and think about it and worry... the worse it is going to be.

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The more you sit there and think about it and worry...the worse it is going to be.

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Okay thanks! & yeah I tend to over think everything. Thanks, I appreciate your help a lot.

One word - lubricant.

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One word - lubricant.

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I've heard that a lot of people don't find it enjoyable when using lubricant.

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it never seems to go anywhere because I feel like she can sense something isn't right

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That's because you are thinking about you, not about her.

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That's because you are thinking about you, not about her.

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I tried to give you a +1 but it won't let me.

That, right there, is probably the answer.

Well done, Librarian, well done...

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I've heard that a lot of people don't find it enjoyable when using lubricant.

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Use K-Y. And I have no clue who those "a lot of people" are. And you don't either.

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That's because you are thinking about you, not about her.

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So you're saying that I need worry less about messing up and stop being nervous and just think about her?

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I tried to give you a +1 but it won't let me.

That, right there, is probably the answer.

Well done, Librarian, well done.....

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Thank you, kind sir! And people think we go bed early to read...

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So you're saying that I need worry less about messing up and stop being nervous and just think about her?

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Yes.

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Yes.

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Seriously, thank you! I never thought about it that way but I can really see that working! I really appreciate that.

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Seriously, thank you! I never thought about it that way but I can really see that working! I really appreciate that.

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Use all five of your senses to experience her -- touch, taste, hearing, seeing, smelling. Make her the center of your world!

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Use all five of your senses to experience her -- touch, taste, hearing, seeing, smelling. Make her the center of your world!

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Okay! You are really helpful. Thank you, we will see how it goes.

I'm curious who the "lot of people" who would prefer "dry sex" over using a lubricant are -