[Barbara Milton]

My 3 grandchildren are in foster care. I have hired an attorney to try and get custody myself. When I visited with my grandchildren tonight my grandson is deviated by being away from his parents. The parents are up for a permanency hearing at the end of the month. They have some pelted everything as asked but I fear this still may go wrong as dsfc is lying and well whatever there. My middles grandchild is apparently not liked by the foster mother he is 6 and in kindergarten, he is being severely (in my opinion) for regretting yellow cards at school not even red. He has been left home and not allowed or trick or treat when the other kids went, he lost Christmas because of this and now is a terrible mess and says he is a bad boy and his foster mother told him its because he does not try. This child is traumatized bad he's no longer the happy boy he was. He's sobbing to go home. The other two want. To go home as well but the 6 year old is very very sad and disturbed now. Dcfs is against the parents, they are fighting me getting the also. And have advised me that the home they are in is a good home and that's where they are staying! What can be done, I plan to speak with my attorney Monday but have little hope that anything can be done to get my grandson in front of an experienced therapist to see the condition he is in mentally. I am willing to pay for this. As long as he is seen by someone other than the "care" dcfs is providing that can't see the condition this little boy is in.

[Wondergirl]

Please explain more clearly what is going on with your grandson. Has he had behavior problems in the past? What about the other two children?

[Barbara Milton]

Yes I will answer these questions but please tell me how t o change my name. I'm terrified if anyone seeing this and this being used against he parents or this child.

[Wondergirl]

Your name cannot be changed. Reregister under a different user name and this will disappear into the canyon of old threads.

[Barbara Milton]

Yes I will answer these questions but please tell me how t o change my name. I'm terrified if anyone seeing this and this being used against he parents or this child.

The parents allowed dcfs into their homes for "help" 3 years ago when the youngest was diagnosed with cancer. They needed help because one parent had to beat the hospital and one at home with the other two children. Since that day dcfs has made them jump through even more hoops. They had issues getting to counseling when the point was they were having issues surviving and with someone having to be at the hospital with the baby and one at home, I did help with getting them a car and as much as I could. Eventually my some and his girlfriend moved far away and dcfs showed up took the kids and I'm in a different state so they would not place them with me, I am moving to the time the kids are in to try to get them.no this child was a happy well adjusted bit he was the happiest child you would know. He told me his foster mother does not like him only the other tool he clearly is having separation issues form his parents. They are not as stable as they need to beat this point which is why I took every dime I had and hired a new better attorney to try to get them. But I need something to be done for my grandson, he is to sad.

[Fr_Chuck]

Besides not being allowed to trick or treat ( a event I care little for) and not being given as much on christmas, because he is not making good grades and is getting bad reports from school.

It appears he has bad behavior and they are using a punishment, while I may not agree with it, I don't see it as abuse

[Barbara Milton]

Besides not being allowed to trick or treat ( a event I care little for) and not being given as much on christmas, because he is not making good grades and is getting bad reports from school.

It appears he has bad behavior and they are using a punishment, while I may not agree with it, I don't see it as abuse

I never said he got bad grades. I said he got a yellow card for not doing something properly in class. He forgot to raise his hand. These children get yellow cards for this for worse behavior they get red. The average child gets 8-10 a week he got 3. No trick or treating! Then the next time two. NO Christmas! Not less NONE! He had to sit in the bedroom while the other kids got their presents. He still hasn't gotten them He is being told he is a bad child. He's not being told
Anything good about himself p. my oldest grandson that is there with him is telling me how bad he is being treated. This child's hands are bright red and bleeding in 5 spots on the back of his hands from sanitizer because he's made to use hand sanitizer that burns his skin because he's told he's dirty!
If you don't see this as mental abuse. I don't know what is. Whether you "care" for trick or treating isn't even a consideration on this conversation. It could have been the circus he also wasn't allowed to go to because he cried when his daddy left after his visit. I suppose you think that's bad behavior as well.

[Wondergirl]

Today is Monday. Did you speak with your attorney?

[Barbara Milton]

Yes I did, this is actually the second Monday since I posted the original thread. But I've talked to my attorney a few times since then, and was told to have my son request an evaluation of the kids by a different therapist, and to request a different case worker for them. And to file a complaint with the OIC. He has requested the first two and is working on the third. I'm just very worried about a child who used to be so happy and is now so sad and doesn't make eye contact, things you know are at wrong when you know how the child usually is.
My attorney has also filed to have my petition to intervene heard on an emergency basis. This is about all we can do now and be patient. Thank you for asking.