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    Jan 4, 2013, 08:25 PM
    Lack of sex advice for soon to be married couple
    My fiancé and I have been together for 2.5 years. We haven't really had a good sex life since we met and it seems to get worse with time. It's usually quick and my needs rarely seem to be taken care of. I've seen many consequences to our now dwindling sex life... I don't feel good about myself at all. I've lost weight and I'm now 5'2, 103lbs but he still doesn't seem interested. I can barely even be in a bra in front of him without feeling stupid and I can't remember the last time we were together. At this point my selfesteem is in the dirt and the idea of initiating anything with him scares me because I don't not feel like its something he is remotely interested in. We're getting married in a month and our lack of romance now and in the future worries me. I don't bring this up to him but I feel like with time he's going to cheat on me since he doesn't seem to be attracted to me. He checks other women out often and does not look at me the same. Every other aspect of our relationship is great. I often ask myself if this is really that important but at the end of the day, it really bothers me and I do not know what to do
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    Jan 4, 2013, 08:27 PM
    You didn't mention ever having a conversation with him about this. Have you?
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    Jan 4, 2013, 08:29 PM
    Hello L:

    Demand some counseling or NO marriage. You don't want to spend the rest of your life all frustrated, do you?

    I would go to a sex therapist or even hire a sex surrogate. He NEEDS to learn, and TALKING about it MAY not be enough... You don't learn how to drive a car by TALKING about it. You learn by knowing how much pressure to apply here, while you're steering over there.

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    Jan 4, 2013, 08:30 PM
    And yet you are still planning on getting married? Its people like this saying damn the torpedoes, full speed ahead... that results in so many divorces.

    By assuming things are through some miracle going to change overnight.
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    Jan 4, 2013, 08:31 PM
    'Every other aspect of our relationship is great.'
    Somehow that just doesn't jibe with low self esteem, feelings that he will cheat after marriage, and fear of talking with him.
    Postpone the wedding, now! It's a train wreck.
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