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    Jan 3, 2013, 02:52 AM
    What to do if your mother is depressed
    My mother is depressed because we live in a city away from all of her friends and her close family and she does not have anyone around except for me. I am 14 years old and I love my mother, but sometimes, I feel that she makes me feel quite sad as well. The worst thing about it is that I don't think I can do anything about it. She would not listen to me if I asked her to go to the doctor for antidepressants; she is very stubborn. I have talked to my grandmother about it and she has told me that I will get stronger as it goes on but she lives in another country and I still have to live 3 and a half years with my mother. Please help me.
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    Jan 3, 2013, 03:39 AM
    Would she go online, to a place such as this? Does she spend time on the computer, connecting with family and friends on Facebook or email or other sites? Are you able to talk to her, or does she not want to talk about it, or do you feel uncomfortable because she's your mother? If you haven't already, I'm sure you could help her use the computer to bring her old world closer to her.
    My mother (many years ago) was in a similar situation but was more bitter and angry than depressed. I became depressed from lack of love and a feeling that I was to blame for all her misery. If this is what you might be feeling, tell us more, and we can concentrate on you. There's only so much you can do for her (and I offered my one suggestion) but maybe we can help you.
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    Jan 3, 2013, 05:21 AM
    I don't think she would go online. She does not really use any websites to connect with people. I'm scared of talking to her, because the house is empty except for her and I and I might lose her even more if I mention depression. I can try to help her use the computer to connect, but I think that she feels she is not very close to her friends anymore anyway.
    When she is very angry or depressed, she does get angry at me, and sometimes I feel that I am the cause of it. However, I do not feel inadequate often. My older sister left for university 3 and a half years ago and ever since then I felt that I could not handle my mother's unhappiness and anger.
    I've decided to discuss seeking professional help with her if I see anymore symptoms of chronic stress or depression. I don't really mind so much if it affects our relationship if it helps her.
    Thank you for your help,
    T :)

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