[Sarahmarch14]

OK so me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 years... We hung out last Friday and were super happy and had so much fun. I even asked him if he was happy with us and he said yes. The following Monday at school eveything was good and we were happy. But I was feeling a little down because I felt like I wasn't that important to him because he didn't really seem to consider me a lot. The next day on Tuesday the morning was good he kissed me hugged me said he loved me you know the usual stuff... Then at lunch he didn't seem to want to spend time with me but just his friends... it seemed like my problem with me being unimportant was getting worse.. I just wanted a little time with him.. I've been working on lately giving him time with friends because that's what he always complained and talked about. But this time he didn't even want to come by me.. He finally came over to me and I asked if he could sit by me but he said if I wanted to I could come by him and his friends... but I refused because I wanted to talk to him about my problem.. We didn't talk really until the end of school then after school he left me to go get some fast food with a few friends.. He came back and I was alone crying he asked me what was wrong and I told him and he got stressed and walked away to a table to play cards where a few of his friends were( they are my good friends too) I went over there and asked him if we could talk but he kept saying no I don't want to talk about it.. Then I kept begging and he finally agreed and we went somewhere private to talk. I began by telling him how I felt and then he just said I can't do this anymore and got frustrated and kept saying no I just and every time I asked him why:( he told me he didn't want to be in a relationship and I even asked for a break instead and he said no I can't.. I cried my eyes out and begged and said I loved him with all my heart and he was the best guy ever but he wouldn't listen.. He said he loved me and didn't want to hurt me. He was crying too.. Apparently one of mine and his friend told me when he got to his car he balled his eyes out after he left me.. I tried to give him space for a couple days and have... because one of his friends said he didn't want to talk so I didn't speak to him at all until 4 days later yesterday night I texted him and casually started a simple conversation. I asked him how he was and he said "ok you?" I said "I'm ok" and he said "truth?" and I said "no not really" then he said sorry and I said thanks.. I asked him how his thanksgiving went and he said" good but the lions lost "and I said "yeah I saw that I don't think many people enjoyed that.."And he said "lol no but at least they were close" I got him to laugh isn't that good? Then he asked me what I was up 2 ( I said I was shopping) and after we talked about that for a bit he all of a sudden said "yep I g2g" it was so random? Then I said "wait can I ask you a question" and he said "sure" I asked him if we could meet in person sometime this weekend to talk about what happens. He said "no I cant" I asked not even for a few hours or OK Sunday? And he said "sorry I just can't" then I went on and said "I don't mean to be rude but I think it would be good not to deal with this at school so we don't put stress on both of us" and he said "how about next week?" and I said "I don't think it would be right at school what about next weekend?" and he said "sure" and I said "ok" then he said "but I will have to see" and I said "ok I hope you can" and I told him I hope he considers it and he said he would. What do I do!! :( this week is going to be horrible:( what do I do to make him miss me or miss us?:( how to I slowly make him realize we can still be together? I could tell he didn't really want to fully do it because he cried and didn't want to talk to me this week because he said he didn't want to hurt me again:( what do I do?:( I think the reason he did it was because of the friend issue but a lot of his friends have gfs:/ I need help:( I want to get him back...

[HellHound82]

It could be his friends at school, it could be another girl at school. Either way if he can drop you that quick with no explanation he's probably not someone you want back. I have been in your situation a few times and when I did end up getting them back every thing happened again. I don't think trying to get this guy back will bring you anything but pain.

[LightCross]

Sarahmarch, judging from your story I can tell that your boyfriend is a 'freedom type' guy, he likes to hang with his friends a lot doing hobby and stuff, a type of guy that would get uncomfortable when you limit his freedom too much.I had a friend like that once.Basically his needs of private time with girlfriend is lower than you.The result? As u described , you felt unimportant, you kept thinking does he really love you or not,Judging from his type it is wise to give him more room to 'breathe' if you want to get him back, talk to him normally like his friends do, and since some of his friends also your friends it is always good to blend in with him when he is with his friends. Wish you best of luck