[momofthr33]

I live in Ontario, Canada and the father of my children whom I have been separated from for 7 years and hasn't exercised any real visitation with the kids since then. We have an agreement that he take the kids during the day every other weekend with no over nights. He had taken them maybe 5 times for a few hours and other then that has stopped by during a birthday or two and plays santa to the kids when he did see them. He hasn't taken them since 08 when a judge ruled he can't have them around his current girlfriend. She lost her kids to Children's Aid Society for a year and fought to get them back. There relationship is toxic, he is a drug addict and currently on charges for domestic violence for the 6th time and is looking at jail time again. He does not have a fixed address but is requesting that I start letting him take them again, my lawyer said they could do supervised access but I don't think its fair that he gets to come in and out of there lives. My children want nothing to do with him. They are 8 and 11. Does anyone know if there is anything I can do? He is either in 100% or not at all.

[Alty]

Go to court and get full custody. If what you've said about him is true, it's documented. But, he may get supervised visits.

I do have to wonder why an 8 year old and 11 year old want nothing to do with their father, unless mom has been bad mouthing him all this time. It's not like they know him enough to form an opinion. Sounds more like they're parroting your feelings towards him, which is not good for them. Like it or not, you chose to have sex with this man, you chose to make him a father to these children. Maybe you should let your kids know that daddy isn't the only one to blame.

But court is the only way you'll limit visitation.

Good luck.