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    Nov 28, 2012, 09:45 AM
    Where Has His Sex Drive Gone?
    When I first moved in, we'd have sex in the morning and again at night. It was amazing... but it lasted about a week. Then we would have sex maybe once every three days. And now it's become once every week if I'm lucky. My sex drive is high, all the time, and I'm always ready to go. That's just me. I thought he was the same way when we were long distance because he was always horny and wanting to do things over Skype. Now that I'm here, I feel so pathetic and ugly and unwanted. He doesn't touch me, he doesn't have any passion or desire for me whatsoever and I'm the kind of woman than needs touch and romance to thrive in a relationship. Lately, I'm starved. It's taken a toll on my mood, my self-esteem, and made me very paranoid about my own looks and body and sexual technique. In my right mind I know that I'm not a boring partner, I know that I'm attractive, and I know that there isn't any obvious reason he should be deliberately avoiding sex with me. But lying awake every night without a kiss or a cuddle or any intimacy at all really makes me feel empty and unloved. I need physical affection, I need sex, I need passion. I don't know what to do, or how to bring it up to him again without sounding desperate and needy. (He's been blaming his low libido on health issues he's been having - chest pains and exhaustion. If its true I completely understand but, the paranoia is telling me he just finds me undesirable and repulsive all the sudden.)
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    Nov 28, 2012, 09:49 AM
    There's no obvious reason he is avoiding sex with you except exhaustion and heart problems? Is he seeing a doctor and/or taking meds for blood pressure or heart-related problems?
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    Nov 28, 2012, 09:51 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    There's no obvious reason he is avoiding sex with you except exhaustion and heart problems? Is he seeing a doctor and/or taking meds for blood pressure or heart-related problems?
    Well, he's 24 and isn't in terrible shape, so I wouldn't expect anything to be medically wrong with him. Nonetheless we're going to a doctor appointment this evening to see what's going on with his heart.
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    Nov 28, 2012, 09:52 AM
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    Well, he's 24 and isn't in terrible shape, so I wouldn't expect anything to be medically wrong with him. Nonetheless we're going to a doctor appointment this evening to see what's going on with his heart.
    Be sure to let us know what is found out so we can give you some good suggestions for the future. Ask about the exhaustion too. It sounds like he isn't getting quality sleep.
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    Nov 28, 2012, 10:09 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    Be sure to let us know what is found out so we can give you some good suggestions for the future. Ask about the exhaustion too. It sounds like he isn't getting quality sleep.
    I most definitely will. Thank you for your feedback! Fingers crossed that it isn't anything serious.
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