Where Has His Sex Drive Gone?
When I first moved in, we'd have sex in the morning and again at night. It was amazing... but it lasted about a week. Then we would have sex maybe once every three days. And now it's become once every week if I'm lucky. My sex drive is high, all the time, and I'm always ready to go. That's just me. I thought he was the same way when we were long distance because he was always horny and wanting to do things over Skype. Now that I'm here, I feel so pathetic and ugly and unwanted. He doesn't touch me, he doesn't have any passion or desire for me whatsoever and I'm the kind of woman than needs touch and romance to thrive in a relationship. Lately, I'm starved. It's taken a toll on my mood, my self-esteem, and made me very paranoid about my own looks and body and sexual technique. In my right mind I know that I'm not a boring partner, I know that I'm attractive, and I know that there isn't any obvious reason he should be deliberately avoiding sex with me. But lying awake every night without a kiss or a cuddle or any intimacy at all really makes me feel empty and unloved. I need physical affection, I need sex, I need passion. I don't know what to do, or how to bring it up to him again without sounding desperate and needy. (He's been blaming his low libido on health issues he's been having - chest pains and exhaustion. If its true I completely understand but, the paranoia is telling me he just finds me undesirable and repulsive all the sudden.)
