[peanut069]

I have been in a relationship for almost a year now. Things were going great until these last two months. He’s been being a little secretive on his phone. I saw he was messaging other girls on Facebook to come see him. When I confronted him about it he got really mad and said I’m being childish because I went through his page and that I’m being petty. That he knew the girl from Chicago but in the message it they weren’t talking like they knew each other. She sent him a friend request so he messaged her, "do I know you?" And she said back you do now lol.

He asked her where she was from she said Miami. He told her he lived in Palm Beach and she’s like oh I be up that way. So he tells her when she comes up this way to come see him. When I saw that, it hurt me so bad I didn’t know what to believe any more. He saw in my past relationship what I had been through with my ex cheating on me and lying to me and he goes and do this. He says he’s not cheating on me because he doesn’t go anywhere after he gets off work. He comes straight home and stays home. I just don’t get why he’s messaging other woman to come see him if he isn’t cheating.

I want our relationship to work and I want to be able to trust him. I just don’t know what to do.

It’s crazy because I did everything to be with this man to almost losing my job and letting him move in my place. His ex girlfriend gave me problems trying to jump me. Had people throw eggs at my car. Then we moved in with his friends and they end up throwing us out because they didn’t have any money and we weren’t going to help them. So we found a place and now we're going through this.

[Wondergirl]

now were going thru this.

He's not going through anything. YOU are the one with the relationship problems, with an emotionally cheating boyfriend on your hands.

I cannot say loud enough, "Get out of this situation asap!"

Also, please write in good English without chat-speak, or the mods will remove your posts.

[talaniman]

Now that you know more of his flaws you need to either trust he will not do it again, or get him out of your life for flirting by phone in the first place.

Been a rocky year with him it seems. I suggest you give this a lot of thought in how you handle this, and even more thought to your actions,and words before you carry them out. If you don't believe he is sorry, and will never do this again then give it time, and let this die. If NOT, get rid of him.

He seems more of a problem than he is worth from what you wrote. Think before you act or speak!!!