[Necoleda]

What should I do? Prior to dating he had a problem with two friends in my life and told me I had to end communication with. My ex and I were really good friends before we tried at a relationship. The relationship was long distance, but I visited him once a month since May. This last visit was the end all be all. I went to visit and every time I moved/turned I was seeing brown colored weave. I kept showing him and he repeatedly stated it was his step daughters which I know it wasn't. Then later while in the bathroom I went to get on the scale and found a Victoria Secret bra tag under the scale, so I got a serious attitude. I didn't want to talk or do anything after that. So for a day or so we really didn't communicate. On my last day everything was cool so I thought, we did our normal hanging out talking, movies, eating out etc. he dropped me off at the airport we said our good byes and I thought we were cool. Once I arrived at the airport I turned phone on and he had broken up with me mid flight.:-( So the next day I had one of the guys that he told me to end communication with to bring me lunch. Oh I forgot to say that he had people at my job watching me and reporting my Every move. He found out about the guy bringing me lunch and he flipped. I really like him and want to be with him, but I really feel stupid because if I can't have him as a boyfriend I would still like to maintain a friendship. Or do I just leave things as they are?

[dontknownuthin]

You have been seeing a controlling guy from a long distance who's cheating on you and lying about it. He broke up with you and now you want to fix the relationship? I think you need to thank him for the favor of breaking up with you as he's clearly a jerk - an inconvenient jerk at that. Then get some counseling to figure out why you think it's worth five minutes of your time to consider trying to "win back" a guy who treats you like crap.

[Necoleda]

Thanks for your reply. I really just need to move on, but it was three weeks yesterday that he broke up with me and its still difficult. I try the no contact rule. I won't talk to him for several days then he will send a nice/concerned about you text once I respond he turns nasty and very rude. Last week he told me would get back together if I apologized to his mother for disrespecting her because she got wind of the guy bringing me lunch. That was the straw that broke the camels back. I know I sound desperate and foolish, but I really cared and liked him a lot. But I promised myself I would not communicate and I have to have to move on.