[itsme1200c]

If an unwed mother wants the father to sign off his rights to a baby can she do that?

[Alty]

Is there someone else that wants to adopt the baby?

[itsme1200c]

No - she just wants him to have nothing to do with the baby - they are both juviniles and were already broken up when she found she was pregnant, I'm his mother. We started going to the doctor visits for the first few months but then they her and her mom stopped letting us know when the appointments were and her mom said that him being around was upsetting her daughter too much and thought it best he stayed away from her - so we have other than an occasional text to try to find out how the baby is and we get only nasty responses like "don't worry MY SON is fine - You don't have a son. The baby is due 11/27/12

[Alty]

Unless the girl marries and wants the new husband to adopt, there's no way to sign off your parental rights. If it were that easy then every father that didn't want to pay support, would just sign away his rights. There's really no way to do that other than clearing the way for adoption.

Your son does have options. Once the baby is born he can go to court for visitation. Just because the mother of the baby doesn't want him around while she's pregnant, doesn't mean she can keep him out of his child's life. So he goes to court once the baby is born an establishes his rights as a father. That also means paying child support.

[J_9]

Depending in where you live, your son can sign a putative father's registry... Putative father registry - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Once the baby is born your son files for joint custody and/or visitation. A DNA test will have to be done for this.

Termination of Parental Rights is typically only done in cases of adoption or step-parent adoption.

[itsme1200c]

He is ready to do that - now that he is over the shock - he wants to be a part of this baby's life - they have just made it impossible to this point mainly because he is dating someone else (and having safe sex) and they don't like that. My fear is they won't even let us know when she does deliver. I just want to protect both of their rights but even more I want to make sure what is truly best for his unborn son is what happens regardless of the immature wishes of her, her mother or anyone else for that matter. At first they were fine but they also thought he would break up with his new girlfriend and go back to her and when he didn't is when all this started.

They cannot sign his name on the bidrth certificate can they? I know that if by chance dna showed he was not the father and his name was already on the BC it would be difficult for him to revers that correct?

[J_9]

No, they cannot put his name on the BC as the father. He would have to be present to sign an Affidavit of Paternity and show a valid ID for that to happen.

[itsme1200c]

No, they cannot put his name on the BC as the father. He would have to be present to sign an Affidavit of Paternity and show a valid ID for that to happen.

That's good to know because at this point I have no trust that they will let us know when she goes to deliver. Of course as the grandma I too am worried that I will not be able to have a relationship with my grandson (which will be my first biological grandchild - second grandson)

[J_9]

If she were to put him on the BC, it would be considered forgery since they are not married.

The BC is done at the hospital before the patient and the baby goes home. There is usually a dedicated person/department that handles this and they will require all necessary documentation from the father or there will be no father listed. I don't think this is anything you should have to worry about.

[itsme1200c]

Thank you - now just to wait and get the attorney in place and ready to go. The sooner the better.

[cdad]

Make sure he keeps all the messages and emails as well as keeps a diary of everything going on until the hearing for custody. It sounds like the mother (both of them) are unfit.