[Homegirl 50]

He belittles you and you don't do that to people you care about. You need to leave him alone.
He does this because you let him, Tell him to get lost. He is not the only guy in the world.

[fieldsar]

Yeah, I think your right. I know he's not the only guy in the world, but its hard to let go of a guy you care about a lot. What should I tell him?

[fieldsar]

How can I stop him from doing that to me?

[Homegirl 50]

When he does it, tell him to stop or leave and mean it. He will either stop or he'll leave.
You have to be seriously tired of being treated this way. Until you are, there is nothing I can tell you.

[fieldsar]

Okay I want to thank you so much for this, you really helped out a lot when nobody else can and I really appreciate it.(:

[Homegirl 50]

You're welcome. I wish you well.

[fieldsar]

What do if the guy you like says "I'm going to give you week to change" I don't know what I'm doing wrong?

[fieldsar]

My name is Amber, I am 18 years old. I'm having major problems with this guy that Ive been talking to about a year now. My feelings for him are very strong, I Love him very dearly. I know I might be to young for love, but in my opinion loving someone doesn't have an age. I stress everyday because me and him have our ups and downs, he's always saying I say dumb things or do dumb things, he's always coming at me with stuff I do wrong, I try everyday to fix with whatever I'm doing wrong but he comes at me with more wrong I do.. To be honest, I don't think he see's what wrong he is doing to me... I get so emotional and I have headaches because all I want to do is make things right with him and make things better for us and our relationship. He says he don't mean to hurt me by telling me about what I do wrong or what I say that is dumb, but to be honest it hurts me whether he's not trying to hurt me or not.. He says that I'm not the type of girl to explain how I feel to him, but how am I suppose to if he's coming at me with all this negativity? I think so much and its so hard to put what all I think about into words... He says I always think negative about what he says, but the stuff he says like calling me dumb, that's being negative... Sometimes I wonder what to? Or how can I change this? To make things more better for us..

[Wondergirl]

Why are you taking all the responsibility for this relationship?

[Wondergirl]

I'd say, "Goodbye and have a nice life."

[fieldsar]

Why are you taking all the responsibility for this relationship?

Apparently I'm doing something wrong...

[Oliver2011]

I agree with Wondergirl. Why stay in a bad relationship with someone so narrow minded and selfish? Life's too short - so go have fun.

[fieldsar]

I think you are right!

[Cat1864]

fieldsar, I merged your threads together to keep all of the advice in one place since it is all dealing with the same relationship and person.

I think you have learned a valuable lesson about what you don't want in a relationship. Let this boyfriend go and allow yourself to heal.

[fieldsar]

I love him too much 2 do that, I just need a break though

[Wondergirl]

What about him causes you to love him?

What is there inside you that is willing to lose yourself in him and his demands?

[fieldsar]

I mean he can be good, its just that sometimes I do take some things he says way out of proportion. Like for example like if he says something that's not mean I take it way of proportion and think it is. I love his personality, I love how he can be caring for me and make me feel better when I'm down.. Everything about him makes me feel COMPLETE and happy and I just want him to change something's about about him that he does.

[Homegirl 50]

Anytime some one tells you they are going to leave you if you don't change, or I'm giving you a week to change, that is a sign that person is not into you. That is controlling.
You should not have to change who you are to keep someone interested. It certainly is not going to make you happy. Is he willing to change who he is to make you happy? I would guess not.
You need to leave this guy alone.