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MsLecole · Oct 14, 2012, 08:30 AM

I'm 21 years old, and my girlfriend is 20 and this is our tenth time dating, every time I broke up with her. I was her first, when she was 16 and I broke up with her eight months after it happened, and between us dating she dated two other people, and slept with them both. I have slept with about 20 people, so I shouldn't get upset with her measly 2 other people, but I get really bothered. She's asked me numerous questions about my ex's and my past and she says it doesn't bother her because it's my past. I don't ask about her past because I don't want to know. But somehow it keeps popping up. I am in love with this girl, but I feel like this is driving a wedge between up. I can feel it eating away at me, and I want it to stop. How can I get over this, so we can focus on us?

Homegirl 50 · Oct 14, 2012, 09:13 AM

You have broken up with her to times, why? I don't know why she continues to take you back.
You need to brake up with her again and stay gone so she can have a normal relationship and life.
How can you say you want to "focus on us" when you are always breaking up with her. You need to get your head on straight.

MsLecole · Oct 14, 2012, 10:15 AM

I broke up with her because I was scared. I was young and growing up I did't have the best example of relationships with my parents. We worked through it, and she took me back because she loves me, and I love her. She;s my soulmate.

Homegirl 50 · Oct 14, 2012, 10:24 AM

You're still young and need to grow up. You are not emotionally healthy if you are feeling this way toward her in light of what you have done.
Get some counseling before you mess things up with her.

MsLecole · Oct 14, 2012, 10:30 AM

I know I have some growing up to do. Do you think I should try talking about her past with her?

Homegirl 50 · Oct 14, 2012, 10:41 AM

No, it's not your business. Why would you do that all it would do is make her feel bad and get you angry.
This is about you not her.

MsLecole · Oct 14, 2012, 10:47 AM

She's tried to talk to me about it before. I won't listen. She thinks if we talk about it, I'll feel better. She said that's why she's so okay with my past, because we talked about my past.

Homegirl 50 · Oct 14, 2012, 10:50 AM

If she wants to talk about it, but only if she wants to. It's none of your business and with your past, you've got nerve. I hope you were having protected sex with all these women.
You need to get over this. Maybe get some counseling.

MsLecole · Oct 14, 2012, 10:57 AM

They weren't all woman. Yes, it was protected. I think I'll try to talk about it. Hopefully it will help.

Homegirl 50 · Oct 14, 2012, 11:03 AM

So you slept with men and women and you're tripping over her two guys? Does she know you messed around with men too?
You need some counseling.

MsLecole · Oct 14, 2012, 11:10 AM

Hers were only girls. And she knows. She knows everything.

I'm a lesbian.

Homegirl 50 · Oct 14, 2012, 11:17 AM

OK. I got that. I still think you need counseling. I don't understand how you could be tripping for her two encounters, especially since you have broken up with her so many times. That is not healthy and it is not fair to her.

MsLecole · Oct 14, 2012, 11:18 AM

I know. That's why I want help, to fix this. Because it's not fair to her. I love her and want to marry her.

Homegirl 50 · Oct 14, 2012, 11:22 AM

Get some counseling, some professional help. She needs some as well. I don't understand why she has taken this back and forth from you all this time. Have you broken up with her every time?

MsLecole · Oct 14, 2012, 11:24 AM

Yes. Every time It was me. She said if I leave again, it's the last time. She won't take me back again.

Homegirl 50 · Oct 14, 2012, 11:25 AM

I don't blame her. Get some help.