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    DizzyLizzy88 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Oct 11, 2012, 01:05 PM
    My husband has no sexual attraction to me.
    My now husband and I (both only 24 years old) have been together for 4 years. When we got together I did not know he was a virgin. I have only been with 3 other men other than him in the past. When we got together I had a son who was not even a year old yet... and he has always been the "dad" figure to my son... We also have a 13month old son together...
    :.. So here is my problem. We didn't have sex for a while when he first got together, then when we did, after the fact he told me it was his first time. After that he wanted sex all the time... whenever, where ever, didn't matter. When we got pregnant with our now 13 month old he never really wanted to have sex anymore... I didn't think much of it, then after I had the baby, still nothing... We got married 6 months after our baby was born and our wedding night... nothing... I found out he has been watching porn and master bating regularly... Even the day of our wedding I found out he did it... since we have had our son, we have had sex maybe 6 times... at the most... and every time we do, he doesn't get off... He says he is too tired, or not feeling well... I've tried to spice things up and add toys, wear more sexy clothes, just try coming on to him randomly and he will yawn and say he is too tired. I have asked if he is cheating on me, if he is gay, or if he just isn't physically attracted to me anymore and he says no... I can't figure it out... What's wrong?
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    CravenMorhead Posts: 4,532, Reputation: 1065
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    Oct 11, 2012, 03:08 PM
    Have you honestly asked him?

    You really need to sit down with him and talk with him. Tell him how you feel and how this is all making you feel. Don't accuse him of anything, or point the finger at him. Just tell him what is going on.

    I am unsure of the reason. There is the thought that now that you're pregnant you shouldn't be touching there because you might hurt the baby. A load of crap that is but... After the pregnancy. I am not sure. Could be exhaustion dealing with the baby, but more likely another reason.

    I am curious why you got married with this issue still outstanding.

    Another idea is that he's too afraid of hurting you after he saw what happened when you got pregnant. Talk to him.

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