[ttyl2012]

No

[JudyKayTee]

My bf and this girl have been best friends for 3 years. I was also best friends with him during the same time he was best friends' with her. She hated me so much, she practically ruined me every shot she got (Ruined my graduation, poured water on my face at at sleepover when she thought it was funny, talked behind my back, never wanted him to hang out with me, etc).

We got together and I finally decided that this girl had to go. He stopped talking to her also because he realized the pain I went through and how she treated me. Years later, he adds her on facebook and hangs out with her behind my back everyday for 1 month without telling me until a month later. He said he needed to patch things up and be on good terms with her, nothing else. He could of been on good terms after meeting with her for one day, why hang out with her behind my back?

I forgave him, however this year ( 6 years now since we've been together), I asked him why he still had her on facebook because I still feel uncomfortable about what he did behind my back (hanging out with her without ever telling me and he knew I hate her), so we fought about it and he said he needed time to decide if he wanted to deleted her or not. He finally deleted her, but instead of deleting her off the bat, he msgs her "I know you don't care, but i have to delete u because I certain someone told me to delete u, hope it's not a big deal...". He didn't tell me that he sent that message. I had to find out by going through his faceook. He simply just told me that he deleted her, nothing else, nothing more.
Again, we fought and he said sorry and that he wouldn't ever talk to her again because it was affecting our relationship.

Tonight I asked him if she comes to this party are you going to talk to her? He said yeah i might wave to break the akwardness, prolly will talk.

I got so mad because he's lying to me since the very start. I just think he'll never learn.. and I want to let it go because I cannot trust him at all. What should I do?

He's entitled to pick his friends. Could I live with lying? No. I think those are separate issues.

You told him he couldn't talk to her because it was affecting your relationship? I'd be surprised if he complied.

Certainly I have friends that my husband doesn't like and the other way around. We just don't get together as "couples."

[Homegirl 50]

I think you are being ridiculous. Why are you going through his messages and why does he have to drop his friends because you don't like them? This happened with this girl, how long ago? Get over it.
Leave the guy or stay but stop treating him like a child.