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    Sep 28, 2012, 03:02 PM
    How do I build this relationship back up after a big fight?
    My daughter and I had not been getting along. She moved out with her boy friend and did not talk to me for 6 months. We just now started talking. Did I say she moved across the street. How do I build this relationship back up.
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    Sep 28, 2012, 07:19 PM
    Continue to take things slow.

    How old is your daughter?

    What was the fight about?
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    Sep 28, 2012, 08:14 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Alty View Post
    Continue to take things slow.

    How old is your daughter?
    My daughter is19

    What was the fight about?
    The fights were mainly about how her boyfriend was treating her and how she was not having any time for family or long time friends only her boyfriend
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    Sep 29, 2012, 11:59 AM
    So she was trying to start a relationship, is probably in school or working, and you got mad because she didn't have as much time for you as she used to?

    Is that the gist of it?
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    Sep 29, 2012, 12:56 PM
    QUOTE by Alty;
    So she was trying to start a relationship, is probably in school or working, and you got mad because she didn't have as much time for you as she used

    Is that the gist of it?
    No her boyfriend would come into the house .and knock her phone out of her hands if she was on it. He would be mad at her if she went any where with her friemds or family. He would text her to f*** off
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    Sep 29, 2012, 01:13 PM
    So he's abusive?
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    Sep 29, 2012, 01:32 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Alty View Post
    So he's abusive?
    He never hit her but very controlling.
    I would tell her that she needed to let him know that she didn't like it. But this is not the problem now. The problem is trying to build our relationship back
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    Sep 29, 2012, 03:50 PM
    Stay out of her business and let her come back your way on her own when she gets tired of this loser. I think you are pushing them together. Be patient she will get enough. Be a listener without judgement or advice if she does open up and wants to talk.
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    Sep 29, 2012, 04:22 PM
    My one thought is to invite her to do something special you both would enjoy with no stress and as Alty said to stay out of her business. For some reason she's attracted to his controlling behavior w/o realizing it. She's an independent woman now. Be her friend/mom and let her know you are there for her. It's important that she's there for you too. Relationships are a two-way street, give and take. You sound like a caring mom. Hope you reconnect on better terms. Must be a difficult situation.
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