[PrivateCity]

My ex and I were together for about 8 months. It wasn't that long but I've known him for many years and have had the same mutual friends before we started dating. In the beginning he was madly in love with me, and although I cared for him a lot I didn't love him the way he loved me. I then went away to school, he got really insecure and always thought I was cheating on him. I on the hand since the beginning of the relationship changed his style, helped him get back in school, and nagged him constantly about getting his life together.

I broke up with him---he wasn't doing it, so I knew I had to. Although we had broken up, we spoke every single day on the phone.. he still loved me and my love for him was growing each day. However... he went and has sex with another girl. This changed everything. But after a month being apart we got back together. He believed that having sex with another girl was justified because we were apart and he needed to get over me. I, on the other hand, couldn't believe that he would do such a thing... SO FAST. BUt I still let it go.

When we got back together things had changed a lot. I tried not to be as controlling. He did NOT stop being insecure though, but he wasn't all over me like he had been. We began arguing A LOT and things were getting ugly. He told me he loved me but that I was too controlling and I found out that he had still be chatting online with the girl he had sex with previously. So after christmas break... I broke up with him AGAIN.

Since christmas we still talked and we had missed each other so much that he came to visit me in college. Although I new that it was going to be a bad idea... I rather he'd come than not to see him at all. When he was here everything was fine, but I knew that I wanted him back for good.

He doesn't want a relationship now. In fact I found out he's dating other people... its so hard cause I really love him. I can't sleep, I can't eat, I can't concentrate. How can I get him back? We got into a huge fight and he told me flat out that he doesn't want to be with... but I'm still not getting the picture... or I guess I still have it in my head that we will be together. Help.

[my2229]

GET OVER IT!! He has selected to move on and you should do the same. The old saying if you love it set it free if it comes back it is yours. Well he's selected not to come back so move on with your life. He's not the right one.