[dfoster5]

Sorry I'm sure your used to the long stories, but here's another one. About a month ago, me and my girlfriend of two years got in to a big fight because I heard she had been cheating on me. She admitted to making out with the guy while we were on bad terms about 8 months ago. I was extremely mad, but I love her and decided to give her another chance like she begged for. She kept in constant contact the next few days crying and telling me she can't live without me and doesn't know what she'd do if I didn't give her another chance. But after about a week, I heard again that she had done a lot more than she had admitted to.

I confronted her, and out of heartbreak hearing all this, smashed a picture of her I had at my house in front of her. She admits to hanging out with the guys, but denies doing any of it except that one time, but her dad told us we couldn't see or talk to each other for being out of line throwing the picture. (she is in college and works but lives at home) We continued to talk as I thought about it and wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt, as I trusted her and never saw her at all as beibg the type of person that would cheat on me the way I had been hearing. We talked through Facebook messages since her father wouldn't allow her to contact me with her phone. We met a few times, but never any longer than 15 minutes max because she was afraid her dad would get mad. Each time she denied having sex with anyone but me, and that she is in love with me and wants only to be with me. We havent't had a real sit down heart-to-heart since the fight.

Upset, betrayed and close to heartbroken after hearing she'd beein cheating on me the way I heard, (She says I am the only one she's ever had sex with, so hearing all this just made things even worse) I had to be sure 100%, so it didn't come out in the future even worse. I started asking her friends if they knew anything. All of them said they didn't know anything and that she's not that type of person. I asked a few of her friends, until last week she got mad at me for talking to them and not trusting her, we got in to another fight about her not having that heart-to-heart with me and about how I felt after hearing she had been sleeping around. I woke up the next morning blocked on Facebook and her not answering any texts.

I thought about things over the next day of not talking to her, and sent an email to her father apologizing and telling him I would never hurt her. He responded with an apology accepted. I then wrote her a day later, telling her I was wrong for asking her friends and that I love her enough that I should have given her the benefit of the doubt. I met her when she got out of work that night, and she still said the same things - that she's still in love with me and doesn't want anyone but me. But she said we still couldn't be together because of her father. I told her about our conversation, and she said she would talk to him about it. She said she would unblock me and talk to me again. Though I haven't heard from her since, 4 days later. I sent her only two texts throughout the four days just saying what's up, no answer. I then see on a friends Facebook a picture of her from the last night I met with her, of her and the guy she admitted to cheating on me with.

Which brings me to the final questions.. Since she still tells me she's in love and wants to be with me, does she just need some space? Or is it time to move on because she really did in all likelihood sleep with this guy, now that she's talking to him again after all this? I feel like she's changed this month since she's been single, but I really love her and want to trust that she's really in love with me like she says.. is she giving me false hope? Did she really go from not being able to live without me to not wanting anything to do with me in just three weeks? Even though just days ago she was still saying she's in love with me and wants to be with me?

With the time to think, I found that I didn't even care what she has done because I know I can't live without her. I think about her all day, everyday and see her memory everywhere I go.

After being just left hanging with her telling me she's still in love with me and wants to be with me, I tried today, 4 days later, to see her before she got home from work. She just kept driving. I ran like a fool. Im absolutely devastated.

Even though she just said a few days ago she wants nothing more than to be with me, is she gone forever?

[C0bra_M3nace]

I found that I didnt even care what she has done because I know I can't live without her.

You got me at this part.

You need to break all contact with her and move on. Not because she may or may not have cheated on you but because you need to find some independence. You shouldn't be able to forgive someone so easily but you did. You're in the state of mind that "you can't live without her" so you'd forgive her for cheating on you just to be with her? Surely you must realize how pathetic that sounds.

Stop contacting her and start moving forward with your life. Work on yourself because you need to be able to survive on your own before you can survive with anyone else. You're taking your own life for granted when you rely on the company of another.

[dfoster5]

You got me at this part.

You need to break all contact with her and move on. Not because she may or may not have cheated on you but because you need to find some independence. You shouldn't be able to forgive someone so easily but you did. You're in the state of mind that "you can't live without her" so you'd forgive her for cheating on you just to be with her? Surely you must realize how pathetic that sounds.

Stop contacting her and start moving forward with your life. Work on yourself because you need to be able to survive on your own before you can survive with anyone else. You're taking your own life for granted when you rely on the company of another.

You are right, its just I was always happy when I was with her. And now that she's gone, I feel like the one I bonded with the most isn't there to share doing the things we liked to do anymore. We worked out together, showered together, we even fished and drank together. And now I can barely find the reason for any of it. Even at my work, she was my motovation for doing it every day.

How is this so easy for her when just a couple days ago she was kissing me and telling me she wanted nothing more than to be with me?
And the worst part of it all is that she never said she did what those guys were saying, and I trusted her enough to give her the benefit of the doubt, so I might not ever even know if we broke up only because of what someone else said. She was supposed to move in just the week after, before I heard all this, something I was looking forward to for months, and now I might never experience that with her

[C0bra_M3nace]

You are right, its just I was always happy when I was with her. And now that shes gone, I feel like the one I bonded with the most isnt there to share doing the things we liked to do anymore. We worked out together, showered together, we even fished and drank together. And now I can barely find the reason for any of it. Even at my work, she was my motovation for doing it every day.

How is this so easy for her when just a couple days ago she was kissing me and telling me she wanted nothing more than to be with me?
And the worst part of it all is that she never said she did what those guys were saying, and I trusted her enough to give her the benefit of the doubt, so I might not ever even know if we broke up only because of what someone else said. She was supposed to move in just the week after, before I heard all this, something I was looking forward to for months, and now I might never experience that with her

Moving on can be a very short process for those with a good state of mind. Either she's really good at coping with her emotions or she started moving on long before your relationship completely ended. She may have lost the love and attachment before the breakup.

For now, focus on surrounding yourself with friends and keeping your mind busy. Get out and start moving on for yourself. Anyone can be happy, it's just how you perceive everything. Just give it time.

[dfoster5]

Moving on can be a very short process for those with a good state of mind. Either she's really good at coping with her emotions or she started moving on long before your relationship completely ended. She may have lost the love and attachment before the breakup.

For now, focus on surrounding yourself with friends and keeping your mind busy. Get out and start moving on for yourself. Anyone can be happy, it's just how you perceive everything. Just give it time.

When we first fought about all this, she was the one who was devastated. She cried for days straight telling me she can't live without me and that she wants nothing more in the world to spend her life with me.

The last time I talked to her, a month after that, just a few days ago, she was still saying she's in love with me and wants to be only with me. Is she just saying that now because she's afraid to just tell me the truth? Because that just made all this even worse to tell me that and then just leave me hanging with false hope

[C0bra_M3nace]

When we first fought about all this, she was the one who was devastated. She cried for days straight telling me she can't live without me and that she wants nothing more in the world to spend her life with me.

The last time I talked to her, a month after that, just a few days ago, she was still saying shes in love with me and wants to be only with me. Is she just saying that now because shes afraid to just tell me the truth? Because that just made all this even worse to tell me that and then just leave me hanging with false hope

It's hard to say really. Only she knows what was going on through her head when she made all these decisions. You can't let your mind ponder these "what if's" and drown itself in the past or you'll never move on and be happy.

[dfoster5]

It's hard to say really. Only she knows what was going on through her head when she made all these decisions. You can't let your mind ponder these "what if's" and drown itself in the past or you'll never move on and be happy.

Yes your right. Thanks for the replies man, its just I want to believe more than anything she's not gone

[C0bra_M3nace]

Yes your right. Thanks for the replies man, its just I want to believe more than anything shes not gone

We all hope they come back. It's not your fault either because believe it or not our heart has a lot of power over our mind and love can fog our rationality.

Just stay strong and keep your mind distracted, whether it be with friends and family or a hobby that you enjoy. Eventually you will move on and you will be happy once again.