[nybpt]

One month ago I had a "sexual" experience with my boyfriend.I touched his penis while he was erect and felt that watery substance that comes before sperm is realeased.than I touched the area around my vagina and inserted my finger in it. Because I'm a virgin and it was my the first sexual (if you can call it sexual) experience I started to have an intense fear of being pregnant. I just spoke with my boyfriend and he said that it's all in my head and said that is impossible to remain pregnant from that watery thing that comes out while the penis is erect.Than my period just came 2 days after that experience and then after a month it came at the right time... somehow my fear just went away for a while. But last week I "played" again with my boyfriend and this time he touched the area around my vagina with his penis and after I touched his penis and had a little wet thing on my fingers I inserted it in my vagina deeper than before because I thought there is no danger. This thing happened one day after my period ended( so I was fertile). NOW I now that where's no penetration there's no pregnancy plus I'm still virgin. BUT 3 days ago my severe lower abdominal cramps started; out of my vagina comes the white substance (it happened before but not so frequent); worse than all this morning I couldn't even eat a banana because I threw out and I also have diahrrea.my boyfriend says that this is because of the sudden change of weather because several friends of his got the seakness. I know he just want to calm me but I just can't. I repeat to myself that it's impossible but the fear of being pregnant perdists. I've read that in my case there would be little chance to get pregnant but this little chance exists and makes me really stressed. Is this false pregnancy? I really throw out and can't eat, I relly have diarrhea and lower abdominal cramps.my lower abdomen is bigger and harder than before (I'm thin so I can observe quickly any change). My breasts hurt a little but just during the night and I'm also feeling very warm though a I don't have fever. I'm so stressed out I can't even sleep. Could those symptoms be faked by my head? They are so real.

[Fr_Chuck]

You actually no almost nothing. Sorry but you are wrong on many counts.

First you become pregnant, it is not remain pregnant.

But there are sperm in the early fluids, your boyfriend is wrong. You can easily get pregnant from the early fluid.

Next all that you need is for the sperm to inter, his penis does not have to, if you shove it in with your finger.

So yes what you did was enough to get pregnant.

It would be way to early to have any symptions, the first symptom 99 percent of the women have is a missed period. So now you have to wait and see if you miss or have the next period.

Please before you get naked with anyone else, learn about sex, and get on proper birth control

[JudyKayTee]

One month ago I had a "sexual" experience with my boyfriend.I touched his penis while he was erect and felt that watery substance that comes before sperm is realeased.than I touched the area around my vagina and inserted my finger in it. Because I'm a virgin and it was my the first sexual (if you can call it sexual) experience I started to have an intense fear of being pregnant. I just spoke with my boyfriend and he said that it's all in my head and said that is impossible to remain pregnant from that watery thing that comes out while the penis is erect.Than my period just came 2 days after that experience and then after a month it came at the right time...somehow my fear just went away for a while. but last week I "played" again with my boyfriend and this time he touched the area around my vagina with his penis and after I touched his penis and had a little wet thing on my fingers I inserted it in my vagina deeper than before because I thought there is no danger. this thing happened one day after my period ended( so I was fertile). NOW I now that where's no penetration there's no pregnancy plus I'm still virgin. BUT 3 days ago my severe lower abdominal cramps started; out of my vagina comes the white substance (it happend before but not so frequent); worse than all this morning I couldn't even eat a banana becuase I threw out and I also have diahrrea.my boyfriend says that this is because of the sudden change of weather because several friends of his got the seakness. I know he just want to calm me but I just can't. I repeat to myself that it's impossible but the fear of being pregnant perdists. I've read that in my case there would be little chance to get pregnant but this little chance exists and makes me really stressed. Is this false pregnancy? I really throw out and can't eat, I relly have diarrhea and lower abdominal cramps.my lower abdomen is bigger and harder than before (I'm thin so I can observe quickly any change). My breasts hurt a little but just during the night and I'm also feeling very warm though a I don't have fever. I'm so stressed out I can't even sleep. Could those symptoms be faked by my head? They are so real.

So many things to say here - yes, touching his penis and the "pre come" IS a sexual experience ("it was my the first sexual (if you can call it sexual) experience"). It isn't intercourse, but it's a sexual experience... and it's dangerous if you don't intend to get pregnant.

His penis and your vagina are being played with, and you don't consider that to be sex play?

He is 100% INCORRECT about that "watery substance" that comes out of his penis. It's pre come and, yes, it contains sperm and, yes, it can create a pregnancy. It doesn't matter if it gets into your vagina on his penis, your fingers, his fingers. It contains sperm. I don't know if he is deliberately lying to you or he simply doesn't understand how his body works.

The information on when you are most fertile is: "The fertile period of a woman is determined by analyzing her menstrual cycle with an ovulation calculator or fertility chart. Normally, the cycle is a 28 day cycle. During the 14th day after a period, the ovum is released. This process is called ovulation and the days 12 to 16 days after a period are said to be a womans most fertile period." Ovulation Calculator to Find Fertile Period

You could have a viral or bacterial infection; you could be pregnant; it could be a false pregnancy. Time is the only way to know. Wait until you miss a period, buy a home pregnancy test kit, read the directions and use it correctly.

And now comes the lecture - you are engaging in dangerous sexual behavior with absolutely no understanding how your body, his body, "work." You could get a sexually transmitted disease, you could be (or might get) pregnant. Unless you are ready to raise a baby I would suggest - if you plan to continue having sex - that you BOTH use birth control - condoms and whatever works for you.

[nybpt]

Thank you for your answer!
Just one more problem: if the "pre come" on the fingers is dried and the fingers come in contact with the wet vagina does the pre come have an effect?
I know my questions are silly but I didn't have any reason to know things like this up until now. Now I learned a lesson... many lessons

[Fr_Chuck]

What do you mean as dried, it has been 20 or 30 min between

You are trying to make what if's, sorry, no one can tell if the sperm had died yet or not. So if it happened like you said, you can become pregnant.