[Kbritton]

Hi I have a question ! Me and my husband are newly weds and he has been acting as if he was the person god has sent. Well unfortunely we were attending a church and I believe no church is perfect but there were quite some things that the church was facing. Well he became youth pastor but he didn't like the way things were going so he brought it to the co pastor attention. I think that's fine we'll as two men that work together there should be communication well he told the pastor how he felt and because the pastor said lets pray he didn't too much like that cause he wanted to talk about it. Well I told him just let things come down n talk let two men and my husbands words were forget that. Well as a me I sing praise and worship but I've been there before my husband so he say no he wants to go some where else. I feel that we got advice on certain things but us as too should seek god in prayer. Well my husband cutt the calls off a wouldn't talk as a man n just say but I feel like cause we are married I have too somehow follow but I'm truly not feeling how he just say I'm not going back but when there's a problem he act as if he can't listen and have sometimes snapped but always say men treat your women as god treat the church. I don't understand how could this be but you really go in a rage even when I know that I humble myself. Another thing is he has been on probation and his you came out dirty but he tried to blame it on another person which he had been doing god knows what. So I find out while we are at his probation office but he tells the man a lie and uses god name invain n try and get me vouch for him and I feel its not right. Not only that he lied as if he never blamed the person and he didn't say it cause he didn't say it till we got there. So I'm upset but still humble as I talk with his probation officer he tell him you need to straighten up and don't put your problems on her cause he also said he didn't make a payment since march 2012 and it's sep 2012 but I have gave him money before but it's just I feel as if he felt like he was going to jail and hen we meet a month ago our marriage was biased on faith and god sent him too me but I feel like he lied too be about his self to have me cause he didn't want to go to jail. I talked with him in a calm voice n said I didn't like it and he till lied too my face. So do you leave are stay cause he used god name invain cause I think he didn't want to go to jail n married me playing with fire. I know I'm not perfect but woul it be wrong to say I want a unlament cause even when we disagree he jumps at me like I'm a man and he also said something's is just no use. I'm seeking help cause I don't want to be the bad one walking away from someone playing with my belief and being unequally yoked do u think god will be mad. Someone answer this please

[Fr_Chuck]

Your post is too confusing to fully understand.

1. so he is on probation
2. he is or was a youth pastor

He is lying to his probation officer and wanted you to lie ?
He is lying to you ?
Many people swing back and forth and go to one extreme to another in their religioius faith.
Others fake a religious faith when coming from a criminal past for many reasons.

How about getting into counseling and working out the problems