[BigBob72]

Well I will try to keep this as brief as possible. I have been in this relationship with this girl for almost three years. We started dating in High school (high school sweethearts). She was a junior and I was a Senior. Things were always great. We did everything together. She fell in love with me very fast. I went to a small college my first year and that really didn't change anything on our relationship. We still kept close contact and saw each other as much as possible. The following year was where I went wrong. I transferred to a big school and lost site on what I had. We still hung out but not as much. I treated her very poorly and even wouldn't text her in days. I got way to comfortable with her and didn't realize what I was doing to our relationship and to her. I seemed not to care as much and I always had her to lean back on. Over the summer we both went back home. We hung out a little more but something was lost. Towards the end of the summer we started to really bump heads and we both decided to take a break. The break lasted 2 days and I contacted her saying he should talk. We met up and we both were crying. I apologized on how I treated her the past year and I have changed. She accepted it. So we went on for about 3 weeks hanging out having a good time but then her text started getting short. We both just moved in to our houses at school and of course she lives across the street from me. I knew something was bugging her so I said we needed to talk about it because communication has always been our weak point. I went over there and she opened her door and I knew it wasn't going to be good as she was all teary eyed. We walked up to her room and she said we needed to end it. She said the feeling aren't there anymore and she doesn't want to drag me on. Of course I did the worst thing and begged and cried for her to give me a chance and to show her I really have changed. Because when we went on our first break I finally realized I really do love this girl with all of my heart. I told her to think about it and let me know in three days if this is truly what she wants to do. Three days later I texted her and she said we should start by being friends and see where it goes from there. I thought great she is giving me a chance but she didn't want me to touch her or show any of my emotions towards her. So a week went by and we hung out almost everyday whether it was to get smoothies after class or going to the zoo. I thought things were going great. We both loved being around each other and had a great time doing it. Then she started to give me those short texts again and I was confused. We were having such a great time. I talk to her about it and she said I was crowding her. So I stepped back and didn't text her till she texted me. She wouldn't text me till late at like 9pm and that killed me and this went on for about 4 days. I finally gave her a call to tell her I know something is wrong. I knew she wanted a longer break or for it to be done. I told her I knew that's what she wanted and I think that is the best thing to do for her. Its been 5 days since that phone call and with no contact. It is killing me because I still have so many feelings for her and I want to show her how I have changed as a boyfriend. I have been down in the dumps. The night after the phone call I went out to a party with my friends. This girl who I was friends with was hitting on me and wanted me to go back to her place. Of course I was drunk and I did. She made a few moves and I turned her completely down. My mind was on my girlfriend. So nothing happened and I left that situation. She living across the street from me doesn't help at all because when I am at my desk in my room I just stare at her house hoping I can get a glimpse of her. She seems like everything is doing fine on Facebook and twitter. So I have been doing the same thing. I started a diet 3 weeks ago and started running and lost 20 pounds. I was the Olinemen in high school and she was the cheerleader. I can get over her for a few hours but then my mind wonders again. She was so madly in love with me and she went straight to no feelings for me at all. I know I hurt her in the last year and I have apologized so much and trying to make things better. I am going to try and make it at least 2 weeks without contact. I feel it will be too late. She has always been stubborn and I know she won't text me and I feel she is just trying to cover up all of her feelings for me completely. I am heartbroken and I feel so hopeless. I feel like the love of my life is slipping through my fingers and I am sitting front row watching it happen. Can I get some advice? Is there any hope for us? Should I talk to her friends? Should I make her jealous? Should I show my feelings on Facebook or play it cool? I have never felt like this in my whole life. I felt like us living across the street from each other would help rekindle that old flame but now I don't even get that chance.

[Homegirl 50]

The best thing you can do is respect her decision and leave her alone. Perhaps this High School romance has ended and she is no longer in love with you. It happens.

[BigBob72]

I am trying my hardest to really respect her space as much as I can. She completely fell in love with me and last year I was blindly hurting her. I feel like the feelings are still there but she is scared to give it another chance. She is just trying to cover it all up and that is what makes it hard for me to completely let go.

[Homegirl 50]

Could be, but you don't have any choice but to respect her decision.