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audreypillsbury · Sep 2, 2012, 02:13 PM

Hi. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 10 months. He is going to be a senior in high school and I am going to be a sophomore in high school.

At the beginning of our relationship, I didn't mind when he went out with his friends. I understood that we both need to live our separate lives and not isolate ourselves. I still believe in this. However I do get very jealous. He is the varsity quarterback, star baseball player, and has the most charming personality. So basically he's every girls dream. I am confident in myself but still easily get jealous.

Anyway, the main issue is that whenever he is with his friends he drinks. I on the other hand do not drink and don't really put myself in that atmosphere. He has explained to me numerous times that he is no different when he's drunk and being intoxicated would never cause him to do anything with another girl . It used to be that I got worried because he would cheat on me but now I know that's not the case. Now I'm worried that I'm just a "second option". I hate the feeling that every night I am not with him, he is drinking.

I have asked him to tell me when we are texting if he is drinking and he now does this. But as soon as I read the text that says " just a heads up my and the boys are having a few beers" my stomach plunges. My emotions go blank and I instantly start acting like a to him. I just don't understand why I get like this. Lately it has been every night where we get in fights and we never have a problem with arguing... I hate being mad at him but I just can't help myself... and I worry that pretty soon he is going to get annoyed with me and not want anything to do with me since I constantly worry and get upset when he drinks...

Any suggestions ?
Thanks :)

C0bra_M3nace · Sep 2, 2012, 04:11 PM

Honestly? You should leave this pathetic drunk. He's not even graduated and already he's drinking like an alcoholic, from what you describe.

Sounds like you're either sticking around because of his status, or because somehow you think he's actually going to stop drinking with his buddies. There's no way you should be putting yourself through all this bullcrap.

What's the real reason you're sticking around? There has to be something, because there isn't too many sane human beings who will put themselves through this sort of torture and mental strain for someone else.

pak1234 · Sep 2, 2012, 05:37 PM

Hey I can tell that you like him a lot but I suggest you leave him because relationships are about giving and taking.
He doesn't really respect you because if he did, he wouldn't be going out drinkig - even though he knows you don't like it. He obv don't care about your feelings.
You seem like a nice girl and I think you can find someone who treats you better and someone you don't have to be worried about. Someone who you can trust and just be like yeah my boyfriend always cares about my feelings. That's a real relationship :)

Fr_Chuck · Sep 2, 2012, 06:11 PM

This relationship is going no where, he is already chosing drrsinking over you, and 9 out of 10 horror stories on relationships starts with ( we were out drinking but I did not mean it) of course you need to get out now

LadySam · Sep 2, 2012, 06:21 PM

So he is what 17? And already you're a rung below buddies and beer.
I don't see this going anywhere for you two, and you are much to young to have to worry about the problems that his drinking will cause.
You sound like a lovely, confident young lady and should not put up with this.