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    Aug 14, 2012, 06:48 AM
    My girlfriend is now afraid to tell her parents about her love.
    Hi,
    I am a 22 year old boy and my girlfriend is 21. We both were in deep love for years. All that time she had the courage to tell her parents about me. Now she is very much afraid to tell her parents about me. Next week her sister is getting married, this sister was once eloped with an non-christian but now she was brought home and now getting married as families wish. So now my GF got afraid that her parents never agree me for the reason;
    1.im an Catholic and she is Jacobite(no big deal but her family won't let her to get married to another catholics)
    2.They only marry her to families they know or heard about(I am very from her and her family know nothing about ours)
    3.Her father is sick and his heart have trouble and he is now happy about my GFs sister marriage is going on as they wish, but if he know about my GFs affair, she said he will not accept it and faint or fall sick as the doctor said he only have 2,3 years life.

    4.she don't want to hurt her family, she is ready sacrifice her life with another man for the sake of her parents(she say she is only hope of her family so her family wants her to get married as their wish)

    5.now she brought up this things because she only knew the issues and her parents dreams when her sister marriage is on.

    6.she is not at all ready to tell her parents and she is afraid. She is not ready to take any risk..
    7. Her parents are already ashamed because of her sisters issues.

    Now we already shared our body, and we are no more virgin, I am madly in love with her and willing to do anything, but she is not making a move.. only thing she can do is if she get a chance apart from all these issues she will tell them and she said there is not even 1% chance...

    I'm madly and deeply in love with her.. she is having guilty concience but still she can't tell them.. how can I convince them or are there any other methods to get her married to me?. I am planning to take my parents to meet her parents and tell them about us without letting her know.. if she know she will be scared and don't allow us to go there.. this is theplan of my parents; to meet them.. what should I do? Now I lost all hope... please help me...
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    Aug 14, 2012, 06:54 AM
    Jacobite. Fist that terms applies to a dozen different groups, depending on where you are, and what your beliefs are. It is both a Christian group ( non catholic) and a Orthodox group.

    But sorry, you are a coward and she can not really love you if she will not be proud to be in love with you.

    You with her need to go to her family and tell them. I am sorry, beyond that you are lying to her parents and the longer it goes on, the WORST they will react.
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    Aug 14, 2012, 07:56 AM
    You and your family have no right to go to her family without her knowledge. That is control, in which case you are no better than her parents.
    If she does not have the courage to tell her parents about you, you need to decide if you want to continue in this relationship.
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    Aug 14, 2012, 08:32 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck View Post
    Jacobite. fist that terms applies to a dozen different groups, depending on where you are, and what your beliefs are. It is both a Christian group ( non catholic) and a Orthodox group.

    But sorry, you are a coward and she can not really love you if she will not be proud to be in love with you.

    You with her need to go to her family and tell them. I am sorry, beyond that you are lying to her parents and the longer it goes on, the WORST they will react.
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    Feb 20, 2013, 10:47 AM
    hi buddy same situation here except the religion today we had a big discussion.she loves me to the core but she is not ready to hurt her parents.I also decided the same,to make my parents to speak with them.but now I feel,if she really value you she has to come to you and fight with their parents,better stay away(but we stupid guys can't do that)
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    Feb 21, 2013, 12:01 AM
    I agree with you ammubujju, now she is gone. There is no hope its been 6months. :'(

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