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    kali4niakat Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Aug 1, 2012, 12:46 PM
    Doesn't want sex with me but masterbates instead
    He always has excuses why we can't or don't have sex. But often masturbates. I cry and tell him I need him . He goes in the bedroom and masterbates then always denies it
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    Aug 1, 2012, 12:54 PM
    Are you constantly after him to have sex? Stop asking and don't say a word about it for two weeks. And no scolding of or mention about him masturbating -- like, it isn't a factor in your life.

    Meanwhile, be conversational about your job or your family or your various activities -- be interesting and fun! Start right now, and we will reassess this in two weeks. Remember, no mention of sex AT ALL.
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    Aug 1, 2012, 01:29 PM
    That's actually a great idea Wondergirl!

    A lot of people get bored of things quickly, even sex. After a while, it can feel like a chore or just another thing that needs to get done today. I think Wondergirls's tactic could work wonders! Seems to me like you need to find that fire again. Have you tried new things? Toys, outfits, new positions? Maybe he's simply bored.
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    Aug 1, 2012, 02:27 PM
    And if all he hears from her is a constant whine of wanting sex, he turns her off and even becomes defiant about it, turning immediately to masturbation as a "So there! I don't need you."

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