[Travis0701]

I know some people might criticize me/us for this but I don't really care, I just need some opinions.

One day me and my friends was introduced to this girl, she was extremely nice and we all bonded easily. Since it was during summer I had to go on vacation, then I noticed that I really missed her and I started to develop feelings for her. When I returned me and her talked a lot, but then I remembered about my past online relationship and didn't want to be in another one.

One day, my friend, her and me were in a 3 way chat-room. We were just talking like usual and then he asked her out. At first I was stunned, when she said yes I was really jealous, I wasn't sure how to react. I tried to avoid her from then on because I didn't want to interfere with their relationship since they were both my friends. She was really upset with me trying to ignore her because we were talking for like 5 hours a day and then suddenly stopped. I knew that it would just end up worst if I kept avoiding her so I told her the truth. She then said that she use to like me but gave up because she thought I wouldn't want to be involved in another relationship because of my past experiences.

We made up and she still continues to date my best friend. I tried to keep it in the friendship zone but it's difficult. For example every time my friend receives a picture from her he forward it to me and it makes me feel really jealous. Even when their webcamming, they bring me into their session. It's really bothering me. I'm not sure what to do at this point.

I would appreciate some advice :).

[The Blind Pilot]

Err is this an internet relationship? If so I feel that you should move on.

However, I like that you are being civil and not intervening with the situation. Though I do feel that if you really like her then you should go for it but remember you may lose a friend in the process. You should also ask the question of how she feels about your friend because if she likes him too then she clearly hasn't made her mind up and if she did like you but settled for someone else, did she actually like you or does she just like the idea of being in a relationship?

I say go for it but just remember:

"bros before hoes"

"every action has an opposite and equal reaction"

[Travis0701]

err is this an internet relationship? if so i feel that you should move on.

however, I like that you are being civil and not intervening with the situation. though I do feel that if you really like her then you should go for it but remember you may lose a friend in the process. you should also ask the question of how she feels about your friend because if she likes him too then she clearly hasnt made her mind up and if she did like you but settled for someone else, did she actually like you or does she just like the idea of being in a relationship?

i say go for it but just remember:

"bros before hoes"

"every action has an opposite and equal reaction"

According to her she liked me in the past, but gave up because I told her about my past relationship that ended bad, she thought that I didn't want to be in a relationship. That was a few days before she agreed to go out with my friend.

[talaniman]

Since they are together you back up, and respect what they have and find other things to enjoy. Decline and remove yourself from this 3 way chat stuff, without making it about your feelings, as there is no reason to express your jealousy and discomfort to any one you don't want to.

This is a challenge, but also a life lesson in managing your own feelings, thoughts, and actions. This would have helped you NOT confess feelings for some one who is dating a friend of yours.

Some things you keep to yourself, and go about your own business about. Feelings for your friends girlis one of those things.