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    Merkat1992 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Jul 9, 2012, 09:44 AM
    No contact 1 week--can I text?
    Basically we are both 19 and we broke up a week ago because as she put it "she was unhappy in general and wanted to find out why" I do want to get back with her because I feel that we have more potential and I think its down to her anxiety issues , She got the same way during her final exams then when they finished she was much better , we did spend a weekend away for 4 days that was timed with her getting her period so we were fighting quite a bit

    But the point of my question is I am using the no contact rule to try and get over this and maybe get her back , its her birthday on the 10th (tommorow) and I want to know is it OK to text her a happy birthday and also what way should I say it?
    Should I be happy or should I be to the point or should I add a message, Ideas?
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    mmresd Posts: 2,002, Reputation: 553
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    Jul 9, 2012, 10:12 AM
    An ex is an ex, go no contact forever and move on. Texting is a bad idea, birthday or not, she has made her decision, make her feel the consequences for not valuing you.
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    Jul 9, 2012, 10:34 AM
    No Contact is not for the purpose of getting her back. Maintain No Contact. No birthday wishes should be sent. She's history.
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    Jul 9, 2012, 10:48 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by mmresd View Post
    An ex is an ex, go no contact forever and move on. Texting is a bad idea, birthday or not, she has made her decision, make her feel the consequences for not valuing you.
    I agree 100% couldn't have said it any better
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    Jul 9, 2012, 01:11 PM
    This is a question I have heard regularly but you must NOT break no contact. She does not deserve any birthday wishes from you at all. Maintain no contact, you WILL NOT regret it.
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    Jul 9, 2012, 01:25 PM
    Go no contact bro, it's tough and we know you mean well but she doesn't deserve the thought of the day.

    No contact proves you not thinking of her, it's a win win for you... trust me I've done no contact for 7 weeks now and its terrible but you have to try.
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    here2assist Posts: 101, Reputation: 27
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    Jul 10, 2012, 01:59 PM
    Looks like you're not getting the answer you want. I'm was on week 6 of NC until he contacted me and asked how I was and if I wanted to meet up next month :-( I'm not going to let it set me back but contact of any kind only hampers your progress for both the sender and the receiver. In my case I responded neutrally (prob a bad idea to even respond) but in a positive tone. He got cold and short with me and said he couldn't talk. I guess he didn't like my response. Either way both sides tend to lose when someone makes contact.
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