[hcar11]

So, over the weekend I went to a bachelorette party. We were at the bar and the bride's sisters had a list of things to do (I think they got it from a bachelorette party box set or something). Anyway, one of the things we were doing, was getting as many guy's phone numbers as we could. I saw a guy I was interested in, so decided to ask for his number. I was worried he'd say no, so I told him I was at a bachelorette party and I needed his number and that it could be fake if he wanted, that we wouldn't call.

Well, a bit later, after we had left the bar I was looking at it, and there was a fictional character's name, and a phone number, but then his name "Ben". Naturally, I had a lot to drink that night and decided to text him, against my better judgement. So I started by just thanking him for his number and telling him I won the little competition, and his response was very friendly and he said he was glad to help. Then I asked him about the two names and he explained that the first was the name of his band I guess. Then I asked him about it and he said, "you must not be from around here, or you know who we were, lol". Then I teased him and said "that good, huh? or are you just cocky? guess i'll have to check it out" to which he responded "haha far from cocky but thanks.." then I just said, don't thank me yet, I haven't listened, or judged yet, or something like that, and fell asleep. That was the end of the conversation.

Now I did look up his band last night, and it is pretty well known along the east coast. I liked him, and kind of wanted to talk to him again, but I'm not sure if I should? I honestly don't know if he wanted me to text him, or not, in the first place, and I don't want to be annoying.

He has a show at a nearby bar/club tomorrow night. I thought about maybe texting him, and telling him I checked out his band, and liked it, and seeing where that went, and if he mentioned the show, saying I'd maybe stop by. I don't know. I'm just really unsure, and self-conscious. I do really want to talk to him again, but I don't want to be someone he complains about to his buddies, you know.

Sorry it's long, but I thought the background info was important. Thanks!

[redhed35]

He could be just a nice guy and was being polite by texting back or maybe he's thinking your not too bad either.

Send a text and ask him out for a drink, nothing ventured nothing gained, don't just show up at the gig, too creepy.

Plus, send ONE text, if he does not get back to you don't panic just move on, don't forget he has YOUR number too, if he wants to see you again he will make his business.

Edit; call him don't text, leave a message if he does not pick up and leave it at that.

[Love_is_pain]

I would give it a go don't hold back.If he didn't think you where atractive in any way he wouldn't have put his band name and all. You just asked for his number but yet you got more then just that plus the fact that he texted you back means something as well he could have just ignored you.

[talaniman]

Well since you have gotten over your vacation romances, I guess checking his band out wouldn't hurt. I would do that, and check the guy out unannounced, and uninvited before I started the text/phone tag stuff.

Take a girl friend with you. Just in case he has a girlfriend.

[mmresd]

Go listen to the music, enjoy it, and after the show try to approach him. If you are rejected, what do you lose?

Good Luck,
Javi