[denbej70]

I have been with my girlfriend for 8 years and we have a 6 year old daughter together. She met her ex-bf again through Facebook after 15 years. She has been secretly messaging him during our last month of our rocky relationship.

She finally had the nerves to walk out on me after living with me and our child. I've been fighting to win her back, but she didn't care. This ex boyfriend of her lives in Texas ( Long distance). They've emailed, text, calls etc. She went to see him 3 months after we split up. All these times she's lied to me saying she is with no one. I found out she opened an account under her name for him. I asked her why and she replied saying that he is putting money in her account cause he didn't want child support to take all his money. He has 4 kids with two different women.

I still love and care about her a lot. I told her all this info about him after doing some investigation. His ex-gf called me and told me. I told my ex he's a dog, but she didn't care she wants him so bad still. Now his money goes into her account and he takes care of her financially a little bit. We hang out and see each other a lot like we're still together, but she doesn't tell him. Can this be lust, infatuation or love with her and him. The reason is she made a video and posted it on you tube with them two together. The title saying" True love after 15 years nothing hasn't changed and we still love each other like when we first met".

Is she really IN LOVE or rebound with an old ex? The confusion part is we just slept together, but if it's true love with him would she done what she did? She told me to move on and find somebody else plus saying she wouldn't come back either if they were not together. She gave me so many mixed signals also saying she was confused and I just don't have enough closure.

[talaniman]

Be good parents because she is doing her thing without you, AND with you. No you are not her only love interest, just a baby daddy she still sleeps with while she is messing with someone else.

Doesn't matter if this fellow is a rebound, new love, or a meal ticket. Don't get caught up in her mess anymore, just be a great dad, and keep it on that level. Keep your head on straight young fellow, because she will use you when she needs you, and tell you (Or him), whatever it takes to keep her getting the best of two worlds, and all the cake she can eat.

Please don't be foolish enough to fall for that crap and get your hopes up, and your butt kicked. She said move on, believe her.

[someonethere]

......She told me to move on and find somebody else plus saying she wouldn't come back either if they were not together. She gave me so many mixed signals also saying she was confused and I just don't have enough closure.

If this is what she said. Unfortunately I would listen - even if it's a fling with her ex. She is telling you to move on and I wouldn't try and get caught up in that situation you are really better off listening. It could get ugly.

It's unfortunate and the way it happened was ugly - I'm sorry to hear.

You have a child together, let that be the main focus.