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demeplev · Jun 18, 2012, 01:17 PM

My boyfriend of 1.5 yrs has this "friend" from darts. Apparently they knew each other for three yrs. But it's the first I heard of this. I will get to that. Well she keeps liking his stuff on FB and he was caught by me at her house when he told me he was going with the guys for "coffee". Well apparently she invited him over. She is divorced with 2 small kids and he was over at 10:30 pm on a Wed night.

He did pick up his phone when I called him, while parked right in front of his car in front of her house. He was shocked but came to me after I left, to clear things up. Obviously he says they are just friends. He did have coffee on his breath, and he swears it was innocent. I told him I trusted him but for some reason I can't seem to shake that this is not just a friendship yet.

Everything he does is always so honest and he has such integrity. Is it possible that a 44 yr old man went to a girls house for coffee at 10:30 at night on a Wed and didn't want to rock the boat? Because I suspected her to be the girl he dated when he broke up with me, but turns out she wasn't. I don't like her! Every time I see her name on FB I feel like screaming.

Do you think its possible they are just friends? Do you think she could be after him?

slapshot_oi · Jun 18, 2012, 01:48 PM

Originally Posted by demeplev

...he was caught by me at her house when he told me he was going with the guys for "coffee". Well apparently she invited him over.

If it was innocent then he wouldn't have lied about where he was going to be.

Originally Posted by demeplev

Because I suspected her to be the girl he dated when he broke up with me, but turns out she wasn't.

Might want to shed some light on that. Why did he break up with you?

talaniman · Jun 18, 2012, 01:48 PM

He could have had her anytime it seems so why get you back to chase her? That doesn't make a lot of sense, but its easy to be suspicious and jealous of some one you don't like, or KNOW!

noks · Jun 26, 2012, 11:39 AM

You know what? Be nice in showing your concerns to him. Know that he'll deny and be upset at first. Wait until you are in a better mood and be nice showing your concerns again and let him know that if the tables were turned he won't be as understandable as you're trying to be because his ego would be affected as if he's not giving you enough because your seeking outside assistance and that's why you respect your relationship to leave certain single traits behind for him, so he has no complaints but that you are placed in an uncomfortable position from his decisions. If he persists after the fact to entertain this girl and make you feel like your mad and jealous when as a woman we know how some women think then you need to leave him. Pray and ask God for strength but know that God wants what's best for you and thin situation isn't best for anyone. Keep your head up and remember to be nice first! Grace is always respected :)

C0bra_M3nace · Jun 26, 2012, 12:05 PM

The very fact that your trust with him is not completely broken after he lied to you about his whereabouts when he was with her scares me about you. What are you doing? You caught him in the act of lying, red handed.

The fact that he can get away with this so easily, will just show him that he can get away with it again, maybe even go further if he didn't already. I wouldn't trust this guy, neither should you.