[Mags123]

I am 11 and I think I need a padded bra. I don't know how to ask my mum and I am really embarrassed. Please don't say just ask her or take her to the shop and say this one is cute. I don't know what size I am but I have breast buds. Please HELP!!

[Curlyben]

Why do you think you need a padded one ?
You really need to have "that" girlie chat with your mom..

[Mags123]

I need a padded bra because I get hit in the boobs when I play soccer, my boobs bounce when I run and they protect your boobs really well

[joypulv]

I don't see how it can be embarrassing to talk to a mother about something she knows about, has been through, and surely knows you are going through. Approach the subject by saying your boobs bounce when you are on the soccer field and you don't know what to do. While talking about that, you might as well bring up the subject of menstruation too. Most mothers are thrilled to be able to help. (Not mine, but that was over 50 years ago and mine wasn't like most moms.)

Personally I would wear a sports bra (pulls over your head like a tight tank top) rather than a padded bra, even if you get hit. Then I would look at some regular bras, padded and not. Go to any clothing store and look at all of them. They aren't cheap though! Make sure you know what the return policy of the store is on bras. I own far more bras that don't fit or are uncomfortable than ones that do. I think if every woman in the world put all their bras they never wear on a big pile it would be bigger than Everest.

[ScottGem]

This has been asked before and it makes no sense to me. This is part of growing up and is a good way to bond with your mother. I can't understand why it would embarrass you to talk to her about it.

Mom, I'm growing up and when I play soccer, my breasts bounce and are uncomfortable. Can we please go and get me a proper bra to wear?

What is so hard about that? Would you feel more comfortable talking to your soccer coach?

[natsy]

It's hard to know what kind of relationship you have with your mother. All mother and daughter relationships are different. If this is important to you but you find this kind of conversation difficult with your mum then you may like to talk to another family member about it , like an aunty or someone that can talk to your mum on your behalf. This information may not be advised if you think your mum would get very angary that you didn't come to her first... If you do have a close relationship with your mum, well there is nothing that you can't tell or ask her... If you find that hard, to actually talk to her face to face then write it on paper and tell her all about the reason you feel you need a new bra or a bra at that... are you wearing a bra at all?

[Mags123]

Thanks u helped heaps hope u answer any other questions I post

[JudyKayTee]

A padded bra will not protect your from injury when playing soccer. There ARE sepcial bras to wear while playing sports as well as padded front shirts.

Ask in a sporting goods store.

Here's a thread on how to ask: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/childr...ra-672103.html

[joypulv]

ScottGem, I started menstruating early and my mother laughed at me when I came running into the room all distraught over blood I knew nothing about. She was playing bridge with some other women. She just laughed me out the door. Although I would hope it would be easier to talk about bras, I don't count on that either. Both my best friend and I had opposite problems with our mothers - mine forced me to wear an old bra with round stitching that just showed through blouses as wrinkles on my flat chest, and my friend wasn't allowed to wear a bra when she really needed one.
This was 1958 - 59, but still.

[JudyKayTee]

Thank goodness to some extent things have changed BUT I have 2 comments - if OP's mother is strict or doesn't understand (as well as other girls who post these questions) why are 11-year olds on the Internet, unsupervised, posting questions about bras? Where is the overprotective mother?

And in my mind the word "padded" jumps to the front, followed by the word "need."

Bra, yes. Need, maybe. Padded - no way, not when my child is 11!

[Wondergirl]

This was 1958 - 59, but still.

We must be clones. My mom is a very conservative person (even now at 88) who does not talk easily about one's body. (Can't imagine how she survived having four children.) My information from her regarding menstruation was a medical brochure slapped down on the kitchen table in front of me after we had finished the dishes with the comment before she walked away, "Ask me if you have questions." (Yeah, right.) I cannot remember any discussion about bras, but I remember wearing one in 6th grade. Times have changed, but moms are still uncomfortable discussing this sort of thing, maybe unwilling to realize their daughters are growing up. And if children don't feel comfortable discussing private/personal matters with their parents... Which brings me to the plea to be open with your children from birth, whether it's about body functions or adoption or whatever, so there are no big secrets or mysteries lurking that will create confusion or fear or embarrssment.

[joypulv]

Clones indeed. My mother put brochures around the house about how babies are made, but I was much too young (7?) and all I recall is a drawing of 2 gloved hands delicately removing a baby from what must have been a womb.

Dear Mags, please let us know how this turns out for you. I think you will help other young girls by doing so, when they search the internet with the same questions.

[MelanieRay]

Just ask your mom, explain to her about soccer if that's your issue. I think there are special bras at the sporting store for protection. I am happy when my girls come to me with problems like this and if you explain to her exactly what you need she will be able to help. Do you want the bra specifically for protection or maybe the bra that you have now is made of t-shirt stuff that's close to wearing none at all. Maybe you just need a real bra. You mom will know when you explain

[JudyKayTee]

I got married young (and annulled, by the way) BUT the night before my wedding my mother came into my bedroom, closed the door, sat on the bed and said, "Is there anything you want to ask me?" I said, "No," she said good - and left.