[joycekkc]

Before my my x Evan and me starting dating I was still messing wit my x Charles. While dating Evan, I admitted this to him and confessed to still have been messing up until our second date. After dating for about a month, Evan and I realized how much we liked each other and jumped into a relationship. My x felt he had no closure between us and convinced me to mess one last time. It was the first week... me n Evan were still getting to know each other, and I knew I wouldn't cheat on him ever again... it was my first time and sure as bell isn't the type of person I am. In any case, time went on and he I guess had a gut instinct or something that kept pestering him to question if I ever cheated on him. I kept yelling him no. I confessed to him that that although I do still love my x Charles, I don't want to be with him and would only be with him as like a last resort because I do want children. My honesty, I now c got me into this whole mess, but oh well. At first he was OK with Charles n I being friends, but then gave me an ultimatum n was ready to break things off. I ended up regretfully cutting off my x since we've known each other for years n were good friends before we started messing n such. My x was pissed that I was in a sense letting Evan control me, but I could see where he was coming from. 2months into Evan n my relationship n him constantly questioning me with the same question, I confessed to having cheated that first week. He was mad, and had few questions, we walked back to my place n we barely spoke. I had never gone through anything like this before so I really didn't know what to say, and not quite sure if he really did love me like he said he did. We were falling in love everyone around us could see it, but he avoided my calls, texts, emails n such... by the time he asked me what I wanted him to do wit my things I told him throw them out n mail me my Bluetooth. Every contact was through Facebook. I thought he had my keys still n was going to go out to see him but he tested me back before I left. We chilled every time we could together, but towards the end it was me mainly going out to see him. He was gentleman enough to pay for everything all the time though because he understood my financial situation. He did question me also though, what I had to offer him once too. Were his feelings as genuine as my friends n I thought? Was he really hurt? Did he really love/care for me? Is he going to be on my mind for a while longer? It's already been about three months since r break. I guess I really saw a future with us so maybe Thas why It's taking so long? Any advice?

[C0bra_M3nace]

What are you doing getting into a relationship if you still love your ex, that just destined this relationship for failure. You can't be friends with your exes, that's just stupidity. I mean you can do it, go for it but say goodbye to any future relationships, because you're still going to have a part of you with him, and that part is still important in a relationship.

Your exes are exes for a reason, it didn't work out and never will. Getting back with an ex is like buying the same ty chocolate bar twice, hoping the second time it will taste better. To get over them, you need to go no contact, never speak to them again and that's that.

You ruined your relationship with him, so I'd suggest going no contact with the both of them if you ever want to have a healthy relationship with someone in the future.

[mmresd]

In case that you are "talking" to exes, I would like to let you know that having anything to do with exes, is not a good thing, and a very bad thing to get used to. You are horrible at answering questions that are asked by your boyfriend by the way. The mistake here is that you are jumping from relationship to relationship, make sure that you are completely over someone, before you start seeing someone else. And no one "convinces" you to do anything, or are you that weak of a person? Learn to say "NO!". Let both of them go, remain single for a while and get your act together, then go out and meet NEW people, forget the past.