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    Jun 13, 2012, 06:57 PM
    My boyfriend of 4 years doesn't want to touch me.
    I been with my boyfriend for nearly 4 years. I sat down here crying now. I think he just bored of me and doesn't want to go anywhere near me. He nice when comes to kisses when leaves and that but when comes to anything sexual he just not interested. I just don't know what to do and sick of feeling rejected.
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    Jun 13, 2012, 07:10 PM
    Have you talked to him about it? If you haven't, then him not touching you is the least of your worries. A couple that can't talk about their problems, have no relationship to speak of.
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    Jun 14, 2012, 06:34 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Alty View Post
    Have you talked to him about it? If you haven't, then him not touching you is the least of your worries. A couple that can't talk about their problems, have no relationship to speak of.
    yes xwe always talk but think we to similar and stubborn he says cos I go about sex wrong way and ask for it, but I said when I try it on get rejected so I got to stage where thinking is it worth trying. Might as well ask. I love him so much. I started accusing him cheating now though because I don't feel wanted x x
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    Jun 14, 2012, 06:42 PM
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    yes xwe always talk but think we to similar and stubborn he says cos i go about sex wrong way and ask for it, but i said when i try it on get rejected so i got to stage where thinkin is it worth tryin. might as well ask. i love him so much. i started accusing him cheating now tho because i don't feel wanted x x
    How are the accusations working for your relationship? I'd bet it's not working very well.

    When you talk, what do you say? Do you ask him how he feels, what he's thinking, or do you just say "You do this! You do that! I feel! I want! I need?"

    There's more to communication then just talking.
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    Jun 14, 2012, 06:49 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Alty View Post
    How are the accusations working for your relationship? I'd bet it's not working very well.

    When you talk, what do you say? Do you ask him how he feels, what he's thinking, or do you just say "You do this! You do that! I feel! I want! I need?"

    There's more to communication then just talking.
    I no there is like I say where very similar n always but in to what each other saying so we got this rule which may sound silly but he has his say n I listen then I have my say or vice versus.

    I wear the trousers though n if doesn't go my way I sulky. N scream n shout x

    you hit nerve there with saying you do this. I want this. I need. That is what I do. Please help x x
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    Jun 14, 2012, 07:14 PM
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    you hit nerve there with sayin you do this. i want this. i need. that is what i do. please help x x
    Huh? You're quoting yourself. So you hit a nerve saying that you "do this". It's your post. If you hit a nerve by your responses to yourself, then only you can help yourself figure it out.
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    Jun 14, 2012, 07:25 PM
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    Huh? You're quoting yourself. So you hit a nerve saying that you "do this". It's your post. If you hit a nerve by your responses to yourself, then only you can help yourself figure it out.
    sorry on my phone and it quite hard as don't get separate box to write in. I meant you hit nerve when you said basically I demand. And I do. maybe too much x
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    Jun 14, 2012, 07:36 PM
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    sorry on my phone n it quite hard as don't get separate box to write in. i meant you hit nerve when you said basically i demand. n i do., maybe to much x
    Then that's something you have to work on. Imagine if he were demanding things from you. You wouldn't take it too well, would you?

    Put yourself in his shoes.
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    Jun 16, 2012, 01:48 PM
    If what you are doing isn't working, change the way you do it. Screaming and sulking doesn't seem to work. So stop.
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    Jun 16, 2012, 02:25 PM
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    If what you are doing isn't working, change the way you do it. Screaming and sulking doesn't seem to work. So stop.
    I think I do 4 attention because always works. Well most of time x
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    Jun 16, 2012, 02:28 PM
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    i think i do 4 attention cos always works. well most of time x
    If that's your reason for it, then you're not ready for a real relationship. Playing games never works, and you're learning that, at least I hope you are.

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