[ashleyron]

Hi,


I've been with my girlfriend for 2 years and 8 months, she is 20 years old and I'm 23. Just a few weeks ago she told me she thinks she's losing feelings for me. Things got abit better because we talked about our issues but that quickly turned sour when she suddenly broke up with me 2 weeks later.

Now her reasoning was that I haven't made enough effort to spend quality time and she's bored of our relationship. Also she said she's still young and haven't had time to experience life before she settled down. But assure me that it's nothing to do with another guy (bear in mind, this is the same girl that previously said she's willing to spend her life with me and would love to move, get engaged and eventually married within these few years.) anyway just after 1 day she calls me up. Was very emotional and tells me she's might of made a mistake and that we could work things out. We eventually worked out a deal and gave our relationship another shot.

But eversince we got back together there isn't many phones calls or text messages as before. No more "i love you forever" or even "i love you" as much as before. I spoke to her regarding the issue and her reply was that she's just confused, but at the same time she's assured me that she still loves me but needs some time for it to work out naturally.

I eventually said to her that we need a break for us both to give us sometime to think. She also agreed that would be a good idea. Told me not to worry and just to hope for the best. She told me that I can see other people in the mean time. We are now officially on a break.

Am I over-reacting?. or is she changing into a different person? Is she ready to move on, and I'm just a backup just in case?


Regards,

Ashley Ron
U.K

[mmresd]

You need to accept her decision and move on. She might have felt a certain way for a while, but when the going gets a little tough, if she is quick to bail, it means that she was never really full invested in the relationship. The reason as to why she broke up with you is not important, it is time to go no contact.

[C0bra_M3nace]

mmresd is 100% right.

The red flag about this relationship should have been raised here.

we eventually worked out a deal and gave our relationship another shot.

Relationships aren't about deals, but instead mutual compromise.