[lynne54]

MY son is living with a girl of five years we just had our first Grandchild in December 2011. My husband and I live almost three ours away we visit at least once a month sometimes more, Tom make a long story short . Son wanted us to move their under there terms, we decided against, now they have cut all ties with us. I am heartbroken so is my husband. We are at our wits ends any ideas would be appreciated.

[jenniepepsi]

My son is living with his girlfriend of five years. They just had our first Grandchild in December 2011. My husband and I live almost three hours away. We visit at least once a month sometimes more, To make a long story short, my son wanted us to move there under their terms. We decided against it, and now they have cut all ties with us. I am heartbroken and so is my husband. We are at our wits end. Any ideas would be appreciated.

A couple things worry me here.
You say 'WE just had our first grandchild'

YOU didn't have a grandchild. Your son and his girlfriend did.

You live three hours away, and visit once a month.
But your son wanted to see you more often, and you said no. and now you are upset about your choice?

Speak to your son about it. Tell him how you feel.
Do you want to be closer to them? Or do you not. If you don't want to move closer, then tell him that,

What is it exactly you are hoping for? He asked you to move in with them, you said no. life goes on. If you changed your mind, call him and tell him yes instead.

What are you at your wits end about? He asked, you said no. I am not seeing a problem. Unless you are regretting your choice.

[lynne54]

Many reason you have no I idea why we said no, being verbally abused my him , no I didn't girlfriend did , but that baby is a part of my son and I consider a big big part of our life. I don't regret my decision, I think its very immature of them just to get mad at us when my husbands health is bad all his doctors are here.that he has been going to for 9 years .I love my son but and granddaughter very much , was no reason to cut us out of his life .

[ScottGem]

So you raised an immature spoiled brat. Unfortunately you have no rights here. So either you reconcile with your son, or wait until he grows up.

[lynne54]

So you raised an immature spoiled brat. Unfortunately you have no rights here. So either you reconcile with your son, or wait until he grows up.

Doesn't want reconcile all he can do is cuss and fuss , so I guess have to wait till he grows up which maybe to late for my husband

[Fr_Chuck]

Yes, it is their child, and they can and obviously controlling the rules of visits.