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Martino2300 · Jun 1, 2012, 06:28 AM

A year ago I was with the girl of my dreams, and it was the best time of my life. But it only lasted for 2 months. At the beginning I thought that I could get her back, that there is no way that the love of my life is gone. I tried out everything, but it ended up pushing her away forever.

A year has passed. I have been thinking about her every day. I just know, that there is no one, who can replace her, there is no one, who could mean so much to me.

Even if she is in a new relationship and is happy. I still can't stop thinking that I would be ready to do anything to make her happy, because she didn't have to try to make me happy.

I just don't know how to keep on living, knowing that she is not coming back and that the best time in life is already over.

C0bra_M3nace · Jun 1, 2012, 09:04 AM

You're having a difficult time getting over her because you completely skipped the first and most important step in getting over any relationship, no contact. Even though you may have not talked, or seen her, you're thinking about her, which does violate no contact.

Before you even begin to heal you must try, as hard as you can to ignore her completely. This step is only as hard as you let it.

Once you've established a good mindset, that she is no longer a part of, you can start to move on. Try new things, go start something you never got to, or something you wanted to but never got around to. You'll meet new people and open new doors, new doors are fun to open, you don't know what's on the other side, it could be anything. Tomorrow is a new day, and it's what you make it. Make it a great day, and start to forget, and move on.

Best of luck my friend.

mmresd · Jun 1, 2012, 11:46 AM

If you don't accept it and start moving on, then if there is someone better, you will push them away as well. An ex is an ex, you should have gone no contact from the beginning and stopped hanging on the way you have. This feeling will eventually go away, let time do its job.

talaniman · Jun 1, 2012, 07:55 PM

Its called being "STUCK", and prevents you from doing better or being happy with anything else. Its nothing but an excuse to sit in fantasy land, and not do the right things to be good to yourself.

It's the easy way out of doing the work it takes to build a life for yourself. You just have to hang in there until you get sick of yourself and actually WANT to do better.

Martino2300 · Jun 29, 2012, 01:09 PM

This week I tried to talk this one girl to go out with me tomorrow. She says that she has to work long houers the day affter tomorrow and can't make it. When I went in to the club the first person I met was her. I known her for a while and its not like we had any mischefs. Why can't they just say ''I don't want to go out with you.'' Is it really that difficult? Is lying better?

Fr_Chuck · Jun 29, 2012, 01:25 PM

They just don't want to hurt you, just accept it.

Martino2300 · Nov 19, 2012, 02:16 AM

My ex and I are friends. We don't hang out a lot, but it is usually fun. Even if I have fealings for her I just suck it up. But yesterday we were partiying and drinking a lot and she got together whit one of her close friends. Even if I tried to keep my cool, in the end I couldn't take it and went home. I don't know what to do. It pains me too much to see her whit someone else, but I don't want to lose her as a friend. We were not so close vhen we were dating and it didn't last long. And even if I have mixed fealings about it, I know we won't be anything more than friends. Can someone help me come up with what is the best thing I should do??

Zealous1 · Nov 19, 2012, 03:17 AM

Go to thepiratebay.se and download everything you can by David Deangelo, especially the audio or ebook about "Attraction". You need to learn how to create attraction in a woman. The ebook, Double Your Dating will help a lot too. Trust me. You will have her climbing back to you.

Martino2300 · Nov 19, 2012, 03:34 AM

Thank you. I apreciate it.

Martino2300 · Dec 18, 2012, 12:42 PM

I have been thinking about this for a long time.

Is love really real.

When you think about it, the reason why two people get together is simply because they like each other and are attracted to one another. And the reason why people break up is either they get anoyed or lose interest. And even if they feel some remorse about leaving someone, it means that they have realized that that someone is not good enough for them. Some relationships last many years, but still even marigess end sooner or later, and it just shows how much time was needed torealize that person is not good enough. Those, who manage to last a lifetime together simply failed to realize this fact.

This is something that's been bothering me a lot and I would appreciate if you could express ypur opinion. :)

Oliver2011 · Dec 18, 2012, 01:02 PM

There are different kinds of love, right? The unconditional love you have for your family, as in kids and parents and maybe sisters and brothers. Well not my sister but some sisters I am sure. Then the romantic love, if you will, that you have for your significant other.

I am not sure yet but I honestly think I am in love for the very first time in my life. And wow are there sparks and fireworks. Will it last forever? I hope so. I am going to do my best to make it so. But if it doesn't, it doesn't mean I wasn't in love.

joypulv · Dec 18, 2012, 01:32 PM

Love is one of only two universal truths, to my mind. The other is beauty.
Why not math or something more precise or scientific? Because those truths are constantly changing, as we make more discoveries.
Love and beauty, although subjective and very personal, are expressed by people all over the world.
Love has infinite variety. You are talking about love between couples. That does have it's problems. For thousands of years, couples got together out of necessity, to scrape a living out of the soil and have children to help, and to take care of the parents when they got old. Marriages were arranged (many still are). Love had nothing to do with it. A lot had to do with merging land and domesticated animals. Romantic love isn't new but it's only recently that it started gaining so much importance.
You say 'not good enough' twice. I don't agree that that is why people break up. That is far too simplistic. It's usually a very complicated set of reasons.

Martino2300 · Jan 2, 2013, 11:12 AM

Its bin four mounths sinc I broke up with one girl, that I liked.

We were together for a couple of weeks and we didn't even have any intimacy in the relationship. It seemed, like she was not fully committed to it as well. So we broke up, but are still friends, thou she doesn't have spare time when I ask her out. And even knowing all this, somhow when I see her picture, It burns me.

I can't stand this feeling.

Can someone give me some advice, because I think I am starting to lose my mind because of these unstable emotions. :(

Oliver2011 · Jan 2, 2013, 11:30 AM

First off stop beating yourself up. These are not unstable emotions. They are normal emotions. You are not helping yourself if you still are seeing her and asking her out. But that is your choice.

Second - move on. Do something fun. Do something that you have been putting off. Go somewhere where you can meet new people. Keep your mind active so that you are not concentrating on this one thing all the time.

Third - be real with yourself. Realize it was only a couple of weeks, not an 18 year marriage. Ask yourself do you really want a relationship where there is no intimacy? No love? No touching? If you answer honestly the answer would be no.

I wish you luck!

talaniman · Jan 2, 2013, 08:23 PM

A month ago you were still hanging out as friends and that sir means you had to start the healing all over again, and this time do NO CONTACT the right way.