[palu]

How to have long intercourse rather than quickly ejaculation

[hollylovesbrandon]

Well, as you may have noticed in most of my posts... I never glorify the length of intercourse, but the moment. My husband and I have never had intercourse last more than probably 45 minutes and we've been together for 6 years. Every time we both have an Orgasm. When having intercourse I would just suggest you concentrate on each other and get lost in the beautiful moment. Block everything else out. Any kind of stress can complicate intimacy. If you are truly ingulfed in your partner and you have that VERY hot moment... things will work out and both of you will be VERY satisfied. So, in shorter terms, concentrate on the moment and each other. Not on the length.

[progunr]

While I can agree with the above answer, let me add some male points of view.

Your biggest sex organ is between your ears, not your legs. If you are nervous, stressed, tense, or very anxious, all of these things going on in your brain, have a huge effect on the part between your legs. The less you focus on trying to last longer, the better success you will find. I know, that is easier said than done many times, but, it is true.

I will add another tid bit. The more you induldge in self gratification (masturbate) the more likely you are to experience this type of problem. Think about it, when you do pleasure yourself, are you focused on making it take as long as possible to cilmax? Usually NOT!
The main focus in this activity is to get that wonderful feeling, and since there is no one there but you, why would you want it to take a long time, right?

The real key is being able to relax. To allow your mind to be clear of all the clutter it wants to occupy you with, things like "am I big enough for her" "am I good enough for her"
"I wonder if I'm as good as the last guy she was with" "oh God, I hope I don't come to fast". These types of thoughts will totally undermine what it is that you want to accomplish.

I'm not telling you, not to masturbate, by any means, but what I am saying is, you can use that exercise to practice lasting longer, rather than just using it as a way to blow a load quickly.

Good luck to you!

[Choux]

It seems like you are describing premature ejaculation... men who ejaculate very quickly upon entering the female vagina.

Sex therapists have a series of exercises to help men who want to prolong the time they spend in the female vagina. I imagine that there are books you can order to practice these evercises... hence your endurance factor.

Good Luck in 2008!

[davidcasser]

I would agree. Everyone's experience different than others, it depends on mood, emotion, and rely on each partner's interest. Forty five minutes are quite good long duration. Sexual pleasure does not come out of longer duration but quality of each partner's lively participation.