
Originally Posted by
sarahscarlett
Yeah, quite frankly that was a stupid thing to say/do.
You should try your hardest to reverse it. Even if that means randomly pleasuring him and acting like you're super duper into it and then complimenting him.
You should always express how you feel about sex, but you should do so gently.
The problem is some things, once said, can never be taken back; no matter how much we want to. This is one such think. It is a recoverable situation, there is no doubt about that, but it isn't this easy.
Suggesting that she have sex with him, when she might not want to, just to massage his ego is equally troublesome. As you well know, being a girl, arousal comes mentally and isn't a direct one and off switch for women. He'll know. Men aren't that obtuse.
Apologizing, admitting she was wrong and that it was a joke that went too far is a good start. It might take a while for the trust et. al. to be re-established.