[josephx13]

I have a gorl friend for 2yrs then she asked me to move in with her so I did but since my job is far from where she lives I told her I would be staying with famly during the week and come up on the weekends to see her till I found something closer to her she was OK with it for a couple of weeks then she told me that I wasn't paying much attention to her and that she wanted some time to herself to think because she was under stress from work school and some family things so I said OK as I was getting ready to leave she stopped me and told me to stay we talked and were OK for acouple weeks then I went to see her and she told me again she needed time to figure things out in her life and that she was stressed out I could tell she was so I told her OK and she did the same thing as the last time so a week goes by and it was her birth day so I texted her to see if she had plans and she told me that she was really stressed out and needed time to figure things out I told her that if that's what she wanted it was OK then she texted me that she loved me in the middle of the night I'm wondering if I should try and work things out with her or just let her go?

[Homegirl 50]

I'd let her go. This on again off again stuff gets old. She doesn't know what she wants.

[josephx13]

Thanks for the advice it has helped a lot

[WisperWill70]

These kinds of relationships are confusing and dramatic. If she's manipulating you by threatening to call it off every few weeks, this is not a healthy pattern. She may do that because she believes it improves the relationship, makes you "try harder", reassure her, etc. --- or she may simply not know what she wants at this point in her life and she flips back and forth (independent of anything you're doing! Either you can work on communicating with her (during those times you're apart) or cut your losses and move on if you're not up for a roller-coaster ride relationship.