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RollingDucks · Mar 14, 2012, 09:23 PM

My best friend (girl) doesn't talk to me anymore and I have no clue why. The story goes like this, she has been going out with my ex-best friend (boy). She told and I was like wow! So I told her that I knew him and that he isn't a good choice, and I keep on telling her that she would get pregnant.

So like a week ago when we were on church, she had this sleeve less blouse, and I keep on telling her that she had funny biceps, and she just left, so I went to say sorry and she completely ignore me, she then hit me on the ribs and threw my papers to the floor, so I just left.

I don't know what I did, because we always play like that and never get mad at each other, we had had a problem before and we both said sorry and that time the case was harder and I just don't know what to do, please help she's my best friend and I really don't want to lose her we have been friends since we were six please help, thanks!

Alty · Mar 14, 2012, 09:42 PM

With friends like you who needs enemies? In fact, neither one of you are very friendly to each other. You tell her that she's going to get pregnant because of the guy she's dating, that you don't like. You make fun of her, and she hits you.

I don't see why you would want to be friends with her, or why she'd want to be friends with you. Who needs all of that abuse?

You have a very strange concept of "best friends". Best friends never hurt each other, verbally or physically.

If I were her I wouldn't reconcile this hostile, abusive, demeaning friendship. You both have to learn what being friends means.

RollingDucks · Mar 15, 2012, 07:06 AM

What do I have to do?

mmresd · Mar 15, 2012, 08:55 AM

Doesn't sound like there is much love between the both of you. Attempt to sit down to talk to her about your friendship, PLAY NICE!! If she is not willing to, then just leave her alone, if she at some point needs your friendship she will come back, if she doesn't they she will be OK on her own. With female friends, when they are mad, the best thing to do sometimes is to do nothing, girls take a little longer to cool off than males.

Alty · Mar 15, 2012, 04:23 PM

Originally Posted by RollingDucks

What do I have to do?

Start actually being a friend. Friends don't make fun of other friends, they don't say mean things about their friends. Friends are friendly. You haven't been any of those, so why are you surprised that she's done? You haven't been a friend, you've been worse than most enemies.

Tell her you're sorry, mean it, and change your behavior. If she doesn't accept your apology, leave it alone. She may be done with this whole thing, and I really can't blame her.

Cat1864 · Mar 15, 2012, 06:06 PM

Let's see, you reacted negatively to her choice of boyfriends. You told her she is going to get pregnant. You are trying to break them up by going on and on about their relationship. When she is already upset about your previous behavior, you make fun of her and make her feel self-conscious about her body. And you don't seem to be trying to look at it from her point of view. You appear to be trying to turn it around and make yourself a victim.

How old are both of you?

I don't know why you are no longer friends her boyfriend, but your behavior almost sounds like jealousy or like you felt betrayed by him at some point in time. If you have a personal problem with him, recognize it and work through it. It is your problem not hers. Has he done anything to you to cause you to react in this way?

Give your friend some time to calm down. Stop nagging her about her choices and how wrong you think they are. She has to make her own decisions about her own life. Be there for her as friend. If things get bad, be there to offer her a hand up. Keep the 'I told you so's to yourself. You never know, their relationship may be good for both of them.

RollingDucks · Apr 22, 2012, 08:46 PM

I Saw Her Boyfriend Kissing Another Girl The Other At The Park, What Could Have Happen? Should I Try To Tell Her?

Alty · Apr 22, 2012, 09:29 PM

Originally Posted by RollingDucks

I Saw Her Boyfriend Kissing Another Girl The Other At The Park, What Could Have Happen? Should I Try To Tell Her?

That's your choice. Also, I'd ask yourself why you want to tell her. Is it because you care about her, or because you want to keep hurting her?

Either way, I doubt she'll believe you, and I doubt she'll appreciate it. Even the best of friends don't take kindly to this kind of news, but she's not even your friend any more.

Maybe you should butt out of her business.

RollingDucks · Apr 22, 2012, 09:33 PM

We Are Friends Again, But Should I Tell Her?

Alty · Apr 22, 2012, 11:19 PM

Originally Posted by RollingDucks

We Are Friends Again, But Should I Tell Her?

Your choice and your decision to make. I've said what I had to say. Take it or leave it. Even if you're friends again, I can promise that she won't want to, and most likely won't believe you, when you tell her that her boyfriend is cheating. Especially because of the past issues you had with her boyfriend.

If I were her I wouldn't believe you, and I would dump you as a friend for good. But then, I'm not a fickle teenager, and I look at the past to make up my mind about the future.

none12345 · Apr 23, 2012, 10:52 AM

You two have a very strange definition of friendship. To me it sounds like you might like her more than a friend. Sometimes friends move on from their friends when they have other stuff in their life, like a boyfriend/girfriend. It also sounds like you two are a little immature. Try to be more grown up and perhaps things might work out for the best.