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    Apr 20, 2012, 02:53 AM
    In love, for the wrong reason.
    Moved to New Orleans a year ago and found myself homeless. I used to fill my time with wandering into random stores to pass the time. Got kicked out of a lot of places. I found myself inside a comic shop one day, a place I swore I would never go. It was there I met the person I fell in love with. Problem was he was the same gender as me. I have since fully realized I am gay and told him how I felt. We talked about things and said our peace. He's still to this day a really good friend but that feeling won't go away. I question everything he does because he acts gayer than I am. I know I should just accept the facts but how do you do that without forgetting how you feel about someone?
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    Apr 20, 2012, 03:38 AM
    You won't forget, you just have to accept that the relationship won't be the sort you would like it to be. In time, your feelings will likely change, especially as you meet other people. It wouldn't matter if he was gay, if he isn't interested in a romantic relationship with you, he just isn't. It's no different from anyone who found themselves really wanting to be with someone who was only interested in being friends. You either stay friends, or move on.

    You might find it helps by allowing yourself to get out and meet other people who may be interested in more than friendship. You can keep this really good friend, but find romantic love elsewhere.

    If it proves to be too difficult to be just friends, then you may have to consider ending the friendship... which would be unfortunate, but only you can decide if you would need to go to that extent for your peace of mind.
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    Apr 20, 2012, 08:59 AM
    You don't have to forget, but you accept that you cannot act on them the way you may want to. In time you will accept that it won't work, and move beyond these feeling.

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