[RealConfused11]

I am in love with my boss. I have been since May of 2009. He is younger than me and I don't believe he is interested. I thought I could work with him, but it's torture to be around him lately. But can I go to our Store Manager and ask for a transfer, and give this as a legitimate reason? I can't just quit my job with the economy the way it is, I can't find anything that pays compareable. I can not afford to go back to min. wage. I don't know how to get away from him without embarrassing myself.

[Enigma1999]

Honestly, I wouldn't do any of that.

I think it's time to put your big girl pants on and let your feelings go.

How can someone be 'in love" with some one that you don't even think is interested in you?

Try lust.

Let it go. Don't risk your job.

[tickle]

Real, you are not thinking straight if you think that giving the reason for a transfer as being 'in love with your boss' would fly with management. You say the feelings were not reciprocated. You would be degrading yourself and him if you pursued that line of thought.

You would be alienating any good references if this were to occur.

Try for a transfer. Extricate yourself from a bad volatile situation the best way you can and maintain your dignity.

Tick

[I wish]

Turn your head away when you see him. It's all about will power. It's just another challenge to overcome. Stay strong!

[JBeaucaire]

Life is risk, all of it. You get to choose which risks you can tolerate and which you can't, we can only suggest what the risks might be.

1) Risk feelings/stress

Keep your job and ignore the nonreciprocated feelings you have. We've all been living with unrequited love since Jr high school, so this should represent the lowest risk for you, or at least the one you can actually live with.

2) Risk losing job

If you reveal this situation to anyone you have zero control over their response to you. They may be reasonable and transfer you (or not) with no further effects.

They could also can you for nonprofessionalism. They get to choose.

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I'm with the others. Keep your mouth shut.

But I would add the additional step of "start active job hunting". You are a much more "hirable" asset if you are currently employed. You should present yourself much better to other possible employers if you can honestly say: "I am currently employed doing ___________ but want to continue developing my career. Long term, my current job has limited avenues of expansion and I believe I am a much better fit with your company for the following reasons...."

So, don't quit your job until you've replaced it, and you don't have to be unemployed to job hunt.

[mokeh]

What is so bad about working with someone you say you are in love with? Sometimes its easiest to work with the people we care about. Or is there some other problems? Is there some workplace gossip going on that's affecting you? That can be nasty. Is it that you have made your feelings known to the boss and you are now being avoided? That can be heart rending. Or is it that you and the person in question had something going and it is now over? That is certainly painful especially if there is a new interest right on site. Or worse yet, is the person already in a relationship and your interest is causing issues? That's a no no.

Whatever is behind your reason for wanting a transfer, there is no denying that its affecting you negatively.

My question to you is this, what is the worse that can happen if you stay on and work diligently in your job. (you get paid even though you are hurt) if it is that you put your feelings for someone out there and you were hurt, you are not alone. If someone chooses to ignore your love, you are still the same fantastic human being that you were before.

I don't see this as a good reason for requesting a transfer, but it's a valid one if I ts affecting your productivity and working relationships.