[fairy80]

My partner and I are both 26, dated for about 7 months and it seems I like to have sex a lot more than him.. he can go a whole week without it, where I cannot! He says he likes it to just happen, but rarley tries it on. Its not out of the blue as he's been like this from day one. I know a relationship isn't all about sex but its important, surely? I'm simply posting this to see if everyone can share something of a similar situation.

[DoulaLC]

Hi fairy80,

It is not uncommon for couples to have varying needs for sex. Most will find a happy compromise, which is all that you can do. Discuss how the two of you might be able to do that.

If, you find that this isn't possible in your relationship, then you will have to decide whether it is important enough to stay with him, and learn to accept how things are, or if having more frequent sex outweighs the relationship and you decide to move on.

If you find that much of your time is concerned with this issue, you might try focusing on other areas of your life for a couple of months and see if having less attention on the frequency of sex, or lack of frequency, helps you to be better able to adjust your appetite.

If it is just something that you wish were a bit different, but can live with it, then try to let it go. Sometimes, too, if he is feeling some pressure in that area, it may actually make things worse for you.