[RGR24]

Hello
I'm a 24 year old arab israeli girl,7 months ago I met a jewish guy ,we started dating and now we are in a perfect relationship,he treats me like no one did before,cares for me provides me every little thing I need. I feel whole with him

The problem is that I come from an old fashion house and my parents will never accept the fact that I'm with a jew,his parents on the other hand accept,respect and love me as if they were my family

At my house my parents and my brother treat me like a little girl they have to know where I go when I go and they make me come back home whenver they like,I'm not allowed to sleep over a friend , I'm not allowed to go out after 9 pm! And I'm not allowed to leave the house and live alone like I want to.

My father is violent,he's an ex police man and he had beaten me up plenty when I was a teen.

Everybody in this house in unhappy,they keep fighting and yelling all the time and they love to control each others lives.I don't want anyone controlling my life anymore,and I want to leave the house and go live with my boyfriend,only that I am afraid my dad might kill me if I do this and he finds me...

We're (my boyfriend and I) are short on money now to leave the state.
I tried to tell my parents that I want to move out and my dad said that he would chop me up and throw me in somewhere.

I'm scared and desperate but I cannt living like this anymore
I don't know what to do,if I don't get help I ll go crazy!
Living here like this away from the only person who makes me feel complete is like dying and I'd rather die than stay like that
Please tell me what to do ! This cnnt go on anylonger.

[TheNanman]

Hmm.. well, I guess if your household is that negative of a place, it would be best to maybe take your chances and move out with him. At least that's what I would do in your situation. However, you also need to take into consideration what the risk is of your family finding out what you've done, eventually they'll know something is up. That's my best advice, I'd say get some sort of law enforcement involved, but it doesn't sound like they'd be able to do anything. I could be wrong on that.

[Just Dahlia]

Where are you living? What country?

[RGR24]

Israel

[talaniman]

I am torn as to advise you anything with a guy you have only known for 7 months. I can understand you wanting to be away from the restrictions, and abuse, but moving in at this time with this fellow seems an unnecessary risk. Instead I think you need the council of a trusted older female you can confide in, as I don't know if the threats against you are valid or not, and escaping may well involve a very thought out plan, and resources.

I do not know how you interact with this guy, or if you have skills to be able to support such a move, but if even being with him is a risk, I would imagine running away would be even greater. I hope you can make a good plan to get to a good safe place where you can at least have the opportunity to be happy and free, with or without this guy who I don't know if he is as solid, and serious as you think he is.

Good Luck! Be safe.